Should I stay the better guy till the end?

Ok, Everyone out there. It's been awhile, so here is a quick update/question. So me and my manipulative stbxw have been slowly marching towards divorce. Saw our respective lawyers and told to come back after we have a rough draft of the dissolution of assets in hand. My stbxw that was at first gun-ho(after I shut off the ability for her boyfriend to call her cell) to get a divorce, is now predictably slowing things down. She's back on the "I don't know what I want anymore. What if you really were the one and I regret this for the rest of my life for something I can't even figure out that I want?" Well I have been pretty steadfast in my conviction, and despite a few minor slip ups(going on vacation with her), I have been distancing myself pretty well mentally and emotionally. So this leads me to my question. You see I know that I am moving towards a mutual divorce. Now the wife is having second thoughts and two months ago I would have been hoovered back into the relationship all over again. This time though, call it self respect or just being so damned tired of it all, it rings like the boy who cried wolf to me. Also I'm down 30 pounds, hitting the gym, and carrying myself a little differently because of this whole ordeal. In that process, I have begun to attract members of the other sex(I seem to have forgotten that I'm 6'2, 35yrs, and successful to a certain degree) So before I would never take up an offer, or even notice it before my mental separation from my wife, now I'm tempted. A resident I met in my hospital has been hanging around me, and has asked me to go out for drinks, or a bite to eat a few times in the last month. At first I thought it was a harmless "lets sit down and talk about my research project stuff", but at the taunting of my staff I'm being told that I'm a moron and this girl isn't just looking to go over research designs.(I really can never tell if a girl is hitting on me, I'm oblivious) So here is the question, should I wait until the ink is dry on our divorce before seeing another woman? I know that my wife is still very much in the fog and seeing her Co-worker incognito. However, I have a pretty steadfast level of integrity, and I know I would just end up hating myself if I let anything happen, or led someone on without any intention of following through. So what does everyone else think. When did everyone else wait to date after their WS put out the white flag?

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