Hi there, I have just started the no contact rule with my separated wife.she says that she can't give me what i want and that she has no emotional connection with me anymore and that cant we 'just be friends'
I have been in a relationship with her for 5 years and married for just over 3 years.It all started to go wrong just after our marriage as I was trying to sell my house and my ex wife agreed , I have two children from my ex wife 10 and 14 year old girls.
My new wife wanted me to sell the home where my ex wife and my kids were living , subsequently we had a buyer , but the buyer pulled out which really annoyed my new wife so much so that she blamed me so much for this.Also I do like a drink whereas my present wife drinks very little and this really became an issue with her , I went to counselling because she kept accusing me of being an alcoholic, however the counsellors said that i wasnt dependent as i was able to stay off the drink for a number of weeks, anyway to get to the point, my wife went out one night for a friends birthday , so i had a slip in my new found sobriety and had few beers , next morning she found out about this and i stupidly lied to her , she saw through my lying and went down the trash can outside our house and found the empty beer cans , she then flew into a rage and promptly kicked me out stating that she cannot trust me and lied to me .
a month later we had a prebooked a vacation so we decided to go on that otherwise we would have lost all our money due to late cancellations clause , so we decided to go and see how things went , she actually said to me ," maybe we rekindle the spark in our relationship" .... thing is we had a fabulous time together , had sex on numerous occasions during the vacation....however we we got back , she has just gone distant on me so i kept pursuing her but it just pushed her away.....I don't know what to do for the best I am not drinking anywhere near what i was and I so much want to rebuild her trust , any advice or is it finally over , aslo by going no contact is this a good ploy , does it even work??
I have been in a relationship with her for 5 years and married for just over 3 years.It all started to go wrong just after our marriage as I was trying to sell my house and my ex wife agreed , I have two children from my ex wife 10 and 14 year old girls.
My new wife wanted me to sell the home where my ex wife and my kids were living , subsequently we had a buyer , but the buyer pulled out which really annoyed my new wife so much so that she blamed me so much for this.Also I do like a drink whereas my present wife drinks very little and this really became an issue with her , I went to counselling because she kept accusing me of being an alcoholic, however the counsellors said that i wasnt dependent as i was able to stay off the drink for a number of weeks, anyway to get to the point, my wife went out one night for a friends birthday , so i had a slip in my new found sobriety and had few beers , next morning she found out about this and i stupidly lied to her , she saw through my lying and went down the trash can outside our house and found the empty beer cans , she then flew into a rage and promptly kicked me out stating that she cannot trust me and lied to me .
a month later we had a prebooked a vacation so we decided to go on that otherwise we would have lost all our money due to late cancellations clause , so we decided to go and see how things went , she actually said to me ," maybe we rekindle the spark in our relationship" .... thing is we had a fabulous time together , had sex on numerous occasions during the vacation....however we we got back , she has just gone distant on me so i kept pursuing her but it just pushed her away.....I don't know what to do for the best I am not drinking anywhere near what i was and I so much want to rebuild her trust , any advice or is it finally over , aslo by going no contact is this a good ploy , does it even work??
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