Hi Everyone,
OK, so, my husband recently got a promotion at work and he is now in a senior manager position. I'm really excited for him, this is the 3rd time he's been offered a senior position and he's finally accepted it! :)
But, I find the in the last month that he's been in the new position, work is all that he ever talks about. He can come home and give me a minute by minute play by play of his day. It's gotten to the point that I'm so inundated with information about his day and the people he works with that I've stopped listening to him.
For example, last night I was trying to study (I take night classes so that I can finish my degree) and he was working on his laptop and he snickers about something that he read and I've learned that unless I want a 30 minute explanation about what he's laughing about to just not ask. Since I didn't ask, he proceeded to go into a 30 minute explanation of what happened, none of which is not interesting to me in the slightest (which I suppose is besides the point). It really frustrated me because it's painfully obvious that I'm busy, I'm surrounded by calculators and textbooks, I mean, how could you not notice. It's just so rude, like he matters more than anything else happening.
But, I guess the thing that bothers me the most about him talking about his day so much is that he outright ignores me when I talk about my day (which is so rare, maybe 1 or 2 times a year do I talk about my day). The other day, I was just sharing a cute little story and in the middle of it he just got up and walked away. I immediately called him on it and asking him if he wanted to hear the rest of it and he just said no, it's not important and walked away. I mean, I've accepted that he just doesn't give a s*** about my day, but the first story I've told him in 6 months and you'd think that he could just listen to it.
The one other thing that really bothers me is that this position is really changing him and I don't think it's for the better. He's become increasingly arrogant. He refers to the employees as 'rank and file' staff, he talks about how he put 'so and so' in their place and he's started talking to me like I'm one of the guys (which I don't appreciate at all, most of it is disgusting). He's turning into a really snotty person who looks down at everyone and seems to think he's better and I don't like it one bit. Those characteristics do not belong to someone that I want to be with.
He's so sensitive that I don't even know how to approach any of this without him getting all upset and thinking that I just don't care about him. It's not that at all. When I get home, I want to be at home. I don't want to have to go through an entire workday all over again (especially because most of it means nothing to me). He doesn't have to suffer through me reliving my work day over again, why should I? Does anyone have suggestions about how to approach this without causing a larger than necessary problem?
Also, to the men out there, has anyone seen situations similar to this? Maybe someone could give me insight into what's going on in his mind?
Thanks,
OK, so, my husband recently got a promotion at work and he is now in a senior manager position. I'm really excited for him, this is the 3rd time he's been offered a senior position and he's finally accepted it! :)
But, I find the in the last month that he's been in the new position, work is all that he ever talks about. He can come home and give me a minute by minute play by play of his day. It's gotten to the point that I'm so inundated with information about his day and the people he works with that I've stopped listening to him.
For example, last night I was trying to study (I take night classes so that I can finish my degree) and he was working on his laptop and he snickers about something that he read and I've learned that unless I want a 30 minute explanation about what he's laughing about to just not ask. Since I didn't ask, he proceeded to go into a 30 minute explanation of what happened, none of which is not interesting to me in the slightest (which I suppose is besides the point). It really frustrated me because it's painfully obvious that I'm busy, I'm surrounded by calculators and textbooks, I mean, how could you not notice. It's just so rude, like he matters more than anything else happening.
But, I guess the thing that bothers me the most about him talking about his day so much is that he outright ignores me when I talk about my day (which is so rare, maybe 1 or 2 times a year do I talk about my day). The other day, I was just sharing a cute little story and in the middle of it he just got up and walked away. I immediately called him on it and asking him if he wanted to hear the rest of it and he just said no, it's not important and walked away. I mean, I've accepted that he just doesn't give a s*** about my day, but the first story I've told him in 6 months and you'd think that he could just listen to it.
The one other thing that really bothers me is that this position is really changing him and I don't think it's for the better. He's become increasingly arrogant. He refers to the employees as 'rank and file' staff, he talks about how he put 'so and so' in their place and he's started talking to me like I'm one of the guys (which I don't appreciate at all, most of it is disgusting). He's turning into a really snotty person who looks down at everyone and seems to think he's better and I don't like it one bit. Those characteristics do not belong to someone that I want to be with.
He's so sensitive that I don't even know how to approach any of this without him getting all upset and thinking that I just don't care about him. It's not that at all. When I get home, I want to be at home. I don't want to have to go through an entire workday all over again (especially because most of it means nothing to me). He doesn't have to suffer through me reliving my work day over again, why should I? Does anyone have suggestions about how to approach this without causing a larger than necessary problem?
Also, to the men out there, has anyone seen situations similar to this? Maybe someone could give me insight into what's going on in his mind?
Thanks,
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