Why oh Why?

Brief intro : We've been married 7 yrs. no children. Her 2nd marriage, my first. We were friends first and dated while she was going throgh her rough 1st marriage. WE got closer and got married.We took the vows seriously and were a perfect couple. She was hospitalized with an illness.I stood by her and helped her. Like in every marriage,We fought often over petty things and always reconciled and in her words she will "always love me- no matter what". We've been through thick and thin and she was always my woman who would support me and stood by me. Then something changed.. Fast fwd. 7 years into marriage, she makes new friends from work, starts going out to the clubs on the weekends and out relationship has been like 'roommates'. Not a lot of sex, only distance. I'm guilty for some of that -- work pressure , boredom, lack of interest etc.. we just had different bio clocks!! Few months ago, caught her talking to a "friend" in a parking lot when she was supposed to be at work. That weekend, she said she was going to the gym and comes home all showered up. i got suspicious and dug thru here phone records since i'm the primary account holder..and voila!! strange numbers incoming/outgoing 50+ minutes. I questioned her and she said " i'ts just a friend". I asked here nicely, "why don't we get on a 3 way and talk to your friend or at least let me say hi". I called the number *67 and it was a "dude". She locked here phone screen and got her a new private phone and left me for over a month now..with a excuse that she was seeing here family ..blah, blah blah and will be back soon. I did some research and spoke to her family and friends, and it was confirmed that she was not staying with them over the nights and weekends.She even lied to them about it. I confronted her over the phone and told her how betrayed i feel for everything i did for her. She has no remorse! I got the dude's number and address and questioned her about it.She blatantly denies it. At this point, i can't take her back or trust her "ever again". I told her not to bother coming back and she can't even "own up to" her lies and betrayal. I spoke to a lawyer and she will be served soon.I can't afford a PE to get proof and prove here infidelity in court. She now wants to see me in court (hidden agenda?!!). I feel betrayed, used and left alone. I trusted her all these years like a dumbass. I know there was something missing over the years and NO ONE is perfect. I admit my faults and tried to work on things i can improve on.Dang! at least i gave it a shot..i didn't go behind her and cheated on her, like she did me. Why TF do people do that? For the love of god..i can't understand nor do my friends. She is the last person in the world, i hoped would do that.:scratchhead: P.s: I'm now trying to get over her, erase memories..it's been real hard so far.

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