Doc said lower LD is "Normal"

I hate posts 40 inches long so will try to keep it condensed Me 45 W 42, boys 7 and 10 together 22 years married 18. Wife got new job 8 months ago moved back to home city. I am stay at home dad. Fairly typical HD/LD marriage. Scheduled saturday sex night unless something interfered. To tired from work during the week. Rarely another day. Go on a cruise, sex 2 times. Always told things will get better, especially after we get married.:rofl: "Women peak in their 40s" :rofl: W rarely ever orgasmed. Does not like oral. Has and uses magic wand. So here we are. Now close to grandparents, family, kids more independent, the "peak 40s". I could tell over the past six months it was getting worse. Getting close to "corpse" position. She is just not getting aroused, with me, the wand, nothing. Insists not even another man would turn her on. Wants to fix things. Saw OB/GYN yesterday who told her this is "Normal", she is normal. Communicate with husband, try "new things", there is no easy fix. Wife cried because this means she is not "abnormal" and is OK. No tests, no nothing. Wife says she is committed to fixing this. Wants my support. Will talk about sex. This after 20 years of not wanting to talk about sex, rarely wants to try something new. Not really into any kink beyond some dirty talk. Has never had fantasies (that she will tell me about). Will not read any kind of sex or relationship book. Insisted for 20 years once a week was the average. Never had a response to "maybe, and 50% end in divorce, and are they satisfied with that ?" In my view she has squandered the past 20 years. If sex had been frequent and great I could weather the storm. Now this and menopause soon to follow. I am looking at the next 10-15 years before there is the possibility of having a satisfying sex life. So now she want to fix it, and she is committed to it. :scratchhead: I am really having a hard time believing this. I have become very cynical. Of course "your attitude is not helping" So now I am supposed to work on it with her. Have sex with a person who has hardly any passion? Sounds great. Better stock up extra Cialis. How the hell am I supposed to get turned on to that ? I can't wait for the suggestion to kiss, hug and cuddle. What do think we have been doing for the past 20 years, sure as hell wasn't having lots of sex. Venting. 40s peak, my ass. I have been lied to for the past 20 years and I am NOW MAD AS HELL.

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