| Hello all, I've posted several times on here before. I just went through a 3-month trial separation with my wife. She was depressed because we are living away from family, and I was dedicating all of my time to my PhD program. Well, she told me on the 18th that she wanted to meet on that Friday, and I spent the whole week very happy that she was finally able to talk. Our meeting on Friday lasted 10 minutes - I sat down, she said she was filing for divorce, and then she left. Naturally, I have been going through the stages of grief all over again. I have asked her why she wouldn't give me one chance, any chance at all, to show her that I have changed (and I have, I am leaving my PhD program and looking for jobs back near home, which is what she always wanted - this is something, ironically enough, that I have been contemplating for some time now). She said that she was depressed the last year of our marriage, and now that she is not with me, she is not depressed; ergo, I don't deserve a second chance. There's no possibility of an affair or anything, but I feel like such an idiot for thinking that 3 months with no contact would make her miss me. I still feel extremely sad for all of the lost opportunities that we won't have, and the experiences that we won't share. I also cannot see myself ever putting that same level of effort (prior to our marriage trouble) into a relationship again, and even though I'm only 24, I feel like I am destined to live my life as a bachelor (we both very much wanted children too). The last 8 years of my life have been devoted to this woman, and I feel like my young adulthood has been completely squandered. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers... | |||
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