Hi,
I'm new here and having some difficulties with my in-laws. I had a pretty good relationship with my MIL prior to my marriage and prior to my SIL moving back into town. But once she returned we had a LOT of issues.
There were some tensions with my DH helping out his sister (my SIL) with a car( paying for parts, insurance, title etc). She's 26 and honestly IMO can do this on her own. When DH and I discussed his need to stop helping due to our upcoming wedding all broke lose and I became the issue. It was like a huge issue that he could no longer fiancially support his sister- eventhough he had already did enough! My Dh's sister was to be in our wedding ( I was trying to include her) which backfired as she couldn't pay for her dress, so we paid for half. When we refused to pay for the rest both DH's mom and sister became very nasty. Making phone calls screaming repeatedly to DH about him needing to pay for the dress & NEVER once taking into consideration that we were getting married & had a lot to pay for.
Lots went on prior to the wedding including neither of them coming to help with my shower & storming out immediately after. SIL was almost banned from that after calling our house the morning of in one of her screaming rampages. All while I vent to my DH and say nothing as he says it'll cause more issues. So this behavior continues- as 2 weeks prior to the wedding is sister SELLS the car he had just sold her and spent all this $$ and time fixing up for her bc she couldn't bare looking at it as it tore her and her brother apart ( she swore he changed because he wasn't helping her fiancially). We had his mother here in our house talking about some of these issues & his mom knew the car had been sold-she said nothing to us.
Meanwhile she had also been borrowing another car from us as the fixer up needed more work.
So in the process of this she sends me (SIL) a text message hoping my marriage fails and that I never reproduce because I'm a horrible person. All because of the $$ issue. So this was the final straw and tell her she's no longer welcome at our wedding- luckily she hops a plane and goes back to where she came from. Meanwhile- other family members apologize for DH's sisters horrid behavior- nothing from my MIL. I know it's not her fault, but a simple I'm sorry you had to go through this- nothing.
Fast forward to wedding- Inlaws are paying for nothing & are ready to up and leave an hour into rehearsal. At wedding MIL says nothing to me- no congratulations, you look nice nothing. Now month later- I see my wedding pictures with her- she couldn't smile in ANY of them. She looks miserable. She smiles somewhat in pictures with her sons. Seriously? You couldn't suck it up for a day. Now DH, is like what can I do? I want to confront her for her disrespectful behavior all this time as I have to deal with her the rest of my life- there needs to be some sort of respect. I need him to get that through to her too- and if he won't do it..I need to!! Thoughts/advice greatly appreciated because I don't know what to do next.. I'm sure I'm missed something but I think you all get the idea!! Thanks for listening!!
I'm new here and having some difficulties with my in-laws. I had a pretty good relationship with my MIL prior to my marriage and prior to my SIL moving back into town. But once she returned we had a LOT of issues.
There were some tensions with my DH helping out his sister (my SIL) with a car( paying for parts, insurance, title etc). She's 26 and honestly IMO can do this on her own. When DH and I discussed his need to stop helping due to our upcoming wedding all broke lose and I became the issue. It was like a huge issue that he could no longer fiancially support his sister- eventhough he had already did enough! My Dh's sister was to be in our wedding ( I was trying to include her) which backfired as she couldn't pay for her dress, so we paid for half. When we refused to pay for the rest both DH's mom and sister became very nasty. Making phone calls screaming repeatedly to DH about him needing to pay for the dress & NEVER once taking into consideration that we were getting married & had a lot to pay for.
Lots went on prior to the wedding including neither of them coming to help with my shower & storming out immediately after. SIL was almost banned from that after calling our house the morning of in one of her screaming rampages. All while I vent to my DH and say nothing as he says it'll cause more issues. So this behavior continues- as 2 weeks prior to the wedding is sister SELLS the car he had just sold her and spent all this $$ and time fixing up for her bc she couldn't bare looking at it as it tore her and her brother apart ( she swore he changed because he wasn't helping her fiancially). We had his mother here in our house talking about some of these issues & his mom knew the car had been sold-she said nothing to us.
Meanwhile she had also been borrowing another car from us as the fixer up needed more work.
So in the process of this she sends me (SIL) a text message hoping my marriage fails and that I never reproduce because I'm a horrible person. All because of the $$ issue. So this was the final straw and tell her she's no longer welcome at our wedding- luckily she hops a plane and goes back to where she came from. Meanwhile- other family members apologize for DH's sisters horrid behavior- nothing from my MIL. I know it's not her fault, but a simple I'm sorry you had to go through this- nothing.
Fast forward to wedding- Inlaws are paying for nothing & are ready to up and leave an hour into rehearsal. At wedding MIL says nothing to me- no congratulations, you look nice nothing. Now month later- I see my wedding pictures with her- she couldn't smile in ANY of them. She looks miserable. She smiles somewhat in pictures with her sons. Seriously? You couldn't suck it up for a day. Now DH, is like what can I do? I want to confront her for her disrespectful behavior all this time as I have to deal with her the rest of my life- there needs to be some sort of respect. I need him to get that through to her too- and if he won't do it..I need to!! Thoughts/advice greatly appreciated because I don't know what to do next.. I'm sure I'm missed something but I think you all get the idea!! Thanks for listening!!
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