I posted a couple of months ago but I thought I knew the solution so I deleted the post.
Back-story, 54 years old, disabled, married 5 years, previously widowed. Found out my husband was having an EA with a much younger woman for at least 2 months.
We went to counseling for a couple of months, it came out that he is a sex addict and now he refuses to go back. He told the counselor that he has always had secret "friends". He insists that it's not cheating if it's just friends and just talk between friends. He said he wouldn't have let it get physical (yeah right). I think anytime a spouse says I love you to someone outside the marriage it is cheating.
I won't be getting ss disability until July, and I thought I could then divorce him and go on with my life. But then I found out I will only get $700 a month. I own my house but can't make it on that, not with insurance, taxes, monthly utilities, and vehicle upkeep. I have checked into any help I could get and where I live it's basically nothing.
So now I don't know what to do. I have explored every option I can think of, even as far as selling my house and moving into low income apartments. Can't do that if I sell the house because I would have too much money to qualify for it.
I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I have to stay with him to survive, and he knows that. I am so angry and hurt, I feel like he turned his back on me when I needed him most.
We fight constantly, he gets angry if I bring up what he did or how I feel. He wants to rug sweep and I just can't.
Anyone have any ideas that I haven't thought of? Any and all advice is appreciated.
Back-story, 54 years old, disabled, married 5 years, previously widowed. Found out my husband was having an EA with a much younger woman for at least 2 months.
We went to counseling for a couple of months, it came out that he is a sex addict and now he refuses to go back. He told the counselor that he has always had secret "friends". He insists that it's not cheating if it's just friends and just talk between friends. He said he wouldn't have let it get physical (yeah right). I think anytime a spouse says I love you to someone outside the marriage it is cheating.
I won't be getting ss disability until July, and I thought I could then divorce him and go on with my life. But then I found out I will only get $700 a month. I own my house but can't make it on that, not with insurance, taxes, monthly utilities, and vehicle upkeep. I have checked into any help I could get and where I live it's basically nothing.
So now I don't know what to do. I have explored every option I can think of, even as far as selling my house and moving into low income apartments. Can't do that if I sell the house because I would have too much money to qualify for it.
I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. I feel like I have to stay with him to survive, and he knows that. I am so angry and hurt, I feel like he turned his back on me when I needed him most.
We fight constantly, he gets angry if I bring up what he did or how I feel. He wants to rug sweep and I just can't.
Anyone have any ideas that I haven't thought of? Any and all advice is appreciated.
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