I found out last month that my husband of 4 years has been cheating with prostitutes since the start of our relationship 7 years ago. Over this period he has slept with 12 but had flirty email, text and phone chat with many many more. He has pre-arranged all meetings, and has done this when I've been at home, when I've been abroad, and when he has travelled with work.
We have a 2 year old and a baby. I am so lost, so hurt, so humiliated. Even after 5 weeks of soul searching, I cannot say that I hate him. How messed up is that?!
He swears that he will never do it again, and doesn't know why he did it in the first place. He wants our marriage to work, but I just don't know. He is seeking help with counseling and going to Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings, but I doubt he is a sex addict. The flirty email exchanges with some of these women AFTER he has paid them for sex are so hurtful, and in my opinion show that there was no guilt or remorse, even though he insists there was.
I suppose I'm looking for any advice from people who have made their marriages work after such deceit, or alternatively how anyone has moved on from such a betrayal. Thanks.
We have a 2 year old and a baby. I am so lost, so hurt, so humiliated. Even after 5 weeks of soul searching, I cannot say that I hate him. How messed up is that?!
He swears that he will never do it again, and doesn't know why he did it in the first place. He wants our marriage to work, but I just don't know. He is seeking help with counseling and going to Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings, but I doubt he is a sex addict. The flirty email exchanges with some of these women AFTER he has paid them for sex are so hurtful, and in my opinion show that there was no guilt or remorse, even though he insists there was.
I suppose I'm looking for any advice from people who have made their marriages work after such deceit, or alternatively how anyone has moved on from such a betrayal. Thanks.
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