I have a porn problem. Became aware of it and its impact on my life a little over a year ago. I've got other issues, like anyone - my scattered posting history has most of it - and a wife who I've been butting heads with for six years (last post basically ended with me saying "**** it, I'm leaving," which turned out to be... not what happened. The status is still quo).
So, the porn problem... when I figured out that it was an issue, I reached out to my wife via email and told her. Said that I had come to this realization, wanted to stop porn, found all this info on what it does to men, etc. etc. She seemed supportive, and I made it very clear I was going to need her help getting over it. Not physical help (well, that too), but rather psychological support.
She seemed to understand. I think she was really trying... she seemed to be, at least.
Until I went home - by myself, she couldn't make the trip - to visit my parents. Was talking with my mother about my marriage, issues, how things are going, etc., when she ask me "Isn't there something else you're having problems with?"
Well... no, not as I can think of.
"(Mother-in-law) called me and told me you're addicted to porn. (Wife) sent her a link to a website and she said it was horrible."
****. Great. Thanks. Now my ****ing mother knows about my problem. I didn't want that. I never wanted that, and I especially didn't want to have her find out because (wife) told (MIL) told my mother. It wasn't my mother's business, it wasn't my MIL's business, and I'll be damned if I appreciate someone making it their business behind my back.
My wife managed to call me about twenty minutes later... still in my parents' house (halfway across the country from home/wife)... asks if I'm mad at her. I say no. Massive lie.
Next step, back to the porn, because there's nobody but myself that I can trust.
FWIW, the "horrible" website was the one I sent to my wife detailing the effects and implications of porn addiction.
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Can you tell I harbor a touch of resentment and anger over this issue? Was about a year and a half ago. Haven't bothered trying to break the porn addiction since.
So, the porn problem... when I figured out that it was an issue, I reached out to my wife via email and told her. Said that I had come to this realization, wanted to stop porn, found all this info on what it does to men, etc. etc. She seemed supportive, and I made it very clear I was going to need her help getting over it. Not physical help (well, that too), but rather psychological support.
She seemed to understand. I think she was really trying... she seemed to be, at least.
Until I went home - by myself, she couldn't make the trip - to visit my parents. Was talking with my mother about my marriage, issues, how things are going, etc., when she ask me "Isn't there something else you're having problems with?"
Well... no, not as I can think of.
"(Mother-in-law) called me and told me you're addicted to porn. (Wife) sent her a link to a website and she said it was horrible."
****. Great. Thanks. Now my ****ing mother knows about my problem. I didn't want that. I never wanted that, and I especially didn't want to have her find out because (wife) told (MIL) told my mother. It wasn't my mother's business, it wasn't my MIL's business, and I'll be damned if I appreciate someone making it their business behind my back.
My wife managed to call me about twenty minutes later... still in my parents' house (halfway across the country from home/wife)... asks if I'm mad at her. I say no. Massive lie.
Next step, back to the porn, because there's nobody but myself that I can trust.
FWIW, the "horrible" website was the one I sent to my wife detailing the effects and implications of porn addiction.
...
Can you tell I harbor a touch of resentment and anger over this issue? Was about a year and a half ago. Haven't bothered trying to break the porn addiction since.
Put the internet to work for you.
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