Been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. I love him so much, he's incredibly sweet and kind, never met anyone as sweet as him and he genuinely loves me for who I am too.
But lately I've been wondering if our lifestyles are compatible and if we're going to work out in the end because of our differences. It feels like as we mature as a couple, we are becoming more and more different as individuals. I guess some people would view this as a good thing- but let me explain.
For a start, we're long distance. A huge strain on any young relationship. Secondly, we don't know when the distance will end because i'm at uni and he's not- he works full time back home. When it comes to prospects and ambitions, i'm working hard at uni to fulfil my dreams whereas he's quite content to sit and do nothing other than go to work (he works in a hotel), come home and sleep.
When I ask him how his day's been he just says "alright" and doesn't elaborate much. He does nothing other than work, as I said, and has very little to report to me (which doesn't help with the long-distance communication. It feels sometimes as though I do all the talking, even though I try to get him to chat about things with me over the phone).
We're also different in terms of our goals in life, totally different, in fact. He has no ambition whereas I have lots. Hope this isn't making me sound cocky, but its the way it is.
I love what we have most of the time, but increasingly i'm having my concerns about what the future may hold because of our differences. I think we have similar personalities (both a bit shy, laid-back, generally nice people) but our outlook on life seems to be opposite. What should I do?? I love him so so much but these doubts hurt a lot and i'm confused
But lately I've been wondering if our lifestyles are compatible and if we're going to work out in the end because of our differences. It feels like as we mature as a couple, we are becoming more and more different as individuals. I guess some people would view this as a good thing- but let me explain.
For a start, we're long distance. A huge strain on any young relationship. Secondly, we don't know when the distance will end because i'm at uni and he's not- he works full time back home. When it comes to prospects and ambitions, i'm working hard at uni to fulfil my dreams whereas he's quite content to sit and do nothing other than go to work (he works in a hotel), come home and sleep.
When I ask him how his day's been he just says "alright" and doesn't elaborate much. He does nothing other than work, as I said, and has very little to report to me (which doesn't help with the long-distance communication. It feels sometimes as though I do all the talking, even though I try to get him to chat about things with me over the phone).
We're also different in terms of our goals in life, totally different, in fact. He has no ambition whereas I have lots. Hope this isn't making me sound cocky, but its the way it is.
I love what we have most of the time, but increasingly i'm having my concerns about what the future may hold because of our differences. I think we have similar personalities (both a bit shy, laid-back, generally nice people) but our outlook on life seems to be opposite. What should I do?? I love him so so much but these doubts hurt a lot and i'm confused
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