Limbo and how long do you live in it?

I am tired of feeling like this. One day I want my marriage, the next week I am sure I don't. Sometimes in just one day I will flip flop on it. Everything says to give it a year and not make any rash decisions, but I know me and cheating is a dealbreaker, yet I find myself loving the person I thought I was married to for 20 years only to realize maybe he was never who I thought he was. I am in so much pain, anger and confusion. My IC told me last week I had to stop living in limbo and she is right, but how long do you give it? I feel most days that I want out of the marriage and rarely feel like it's worth it for me to put in the work it would take to even begin to rebuild anything. It's been 7 months since the first day he admitted to cheating with hookers.

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