I am really trying....but what to do?

Hello everyone, First i am so glad that there is a forum like this and i am happy i found it.I am new here and this is how my marriage goes; I have been married to my husband for a year and half now and 3years plus relationship.We also just recently moved to the United States from Europe...to start a new life and raise a family. During the relationship and marriage i have observed somethings so far (Note: I am slightly passive and i am not claiming to be perfect but not many things are my fault). Our Sex Life: Since the beginning of the relationship i have known something was wrong with my husband's sexuality (he later told him he was sexually approached by his mom during childhood) and this made him sexually unresponsive. We kiss and touch passionately and sometimes he gets no erection or gets its and loses it while penetrating. Sometimes when he finally gets an erection and we need some seconds to put on a condom, i find myself praying so hard he does not lose it in the wink of an eye. Also, while performing, its almost robotic and i feel and know his mind is wandering and not there with me in sex. This gets me frustrated as i used to be very much attracted to him and everyday i want him but he never really wants me back. We addressed this quiet often and he agreed to seek a therapist, i cant really tell if that works because there was no significant sex change. I got pregnant last year and it extremely got worse, now we have a 5month old and i can say we hav e only had sex 5 times this year. At the moment i am tired of trying, that i do not even miss him sexually neither do i really want him. I still get sexual urges not as before but i just let them pass. Now he thinks he will go to a medical doctor for Viagra (even though i know he is only doing this because he thinks sex is like another chore he must do and not because he really wants me sexually). He Exaggerates Negative Parts of Things: Whenever there is something new coming up for either of us or both, the first thing he does is to highlight on the negative things or focus on the negative details. He is so much of an insecure person even at his job that i think his colleagues sees this and does not make them appreciate him so much. Even if he can do something like 100% or even more, i hear his say maybe, might, lets see which gives a message of i am only 30% capable. He dresses odd to feel special or do so much to appear confident, i have to force him to buy decent or good fitting clothes. He likes to keep old things because he doesn't see whats wrong with the white shirt that has already turned brown. I celebrate when he gets a new shirt or so. He got a new nice well paying job, and he came home some weeks ago saying, i think my boss or colleagues don't like me, i think they are talking about firing me at lunch, i think i don't meet up to their expectations, i think this and that (all negative). Of course, i am so used to this from him that i was only empathetic while listening because i know its not true and if it is anyway near truth, its because of how he presents himself to people (insecure and incapable). He also gives me the unknowingly gives me the feedback that i cant do anything right without him overseeing it. I feel so lost and I am also afraid he transmits this pessimistic attitude to our son sometimes in the future. Uses Everything As A Stress Excuse: I am currently staying at home to look after our son till next year when i resume a job, so he works full time to support the family. This make him use everything as a stress factor, if he just paid the bill...(stressed) and then snap out of the blue which sometimes ruin my day because at times i am all excited about something, smiling and happy and then suddenly he says have you done this this this and that. This kills my spirit and now i live without excitement, no emotions even when nice things happen because the moment i get excited the moment my dear husband says something to bring me down. Now he says i don't appreciate things, i know its true but he made me that way. He is generally a sweet person, he tries to be nice and gets stressed about it. I tell him if you know you will get stressed being nice to people, then don't be....people will understand and not get carried away with you being nice then suddenly you are beaming with stress. At the moment, i dont know if i still love him or not, but i am ready to fall for him all over again. Help me, i want my marriage to work so bad but i feel like i am failing at this.One thing keeping me strong is focusing on his nice sides but i am losing myself gradually and not genuinely happy.

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