Husband keeps spending

Hi all, Im new here. Recently married but together 13 years. My how things change and not change at all. Hubby keeps spending money from savings and does not tell me. Thus, he is not budgeting his own account and transferring from the savings. Im so angry right now and have no one to talk to. My best fried of 30 years recently died of a massive heart attack. Im at a loss of what to do. I know I should take his name off the accounts and give him an allowance, but that, folks, is PARENTING, not marriage. Also, its mostly his money. He is a trust finder and recently inherited 250k. We bought a house (finally in our 40s) and are on the road. We both have good jobs, are saving for retirement, etc. Could we spare the money out of our furniture account? Yes, but its the principle. He doesn't communicate and then throws a tantrum when I confront him. This is nothing new and has been going on for years. Im so upset right now I cant even write all this out. Im just tired of feeling like Im raising my husband and having to be the grown up all the time. I want to cry, scream. I feel horribly trapped when he does this. If I dont watch it, he will spend everything. My husband is the type of man who never opens mail or pays bills. I worked very hard to get my credit up over the years so we could get a house someday. Had his credit too - until 3 years ago he opened a secret credit card and blew his credit on golf stuff. Ugh. Sorry this is a mess. Ill come back later. Please, if anyone has any advice...

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