Default to fear at onset of DDay and post DDay.

And why do we succumb to fear of being sued for harassment when considering confrontation of AP? Why do we assume the confrontation of AP has to be hostile? When should we resort to exposure? In my own experience, I defaulted to fear because everything I had ever known about my husband demanded a review. I went into a fog of shock. The conclusion? Everything I suspected male/female related to him, came under review. Conclusion= Gut feelings correct all along. First contact with AP was via email & she responded in kind, huffing and puffing about not knowing why she felt compelled in answering me but that they were friends for many, many years (their 'friendship' began last 5 years of our marriage & continued after divorce) and if I ever contacted her again she would sue me for harassment. Several phone calls later (refusing to be intimidated by the threat) with quite a calm, cordial approach, I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. The results were as follows: She met questions with silence eg., Counselor called her and asked her since they were such good friends, did he assert to her how much he loved and cherished his beautiful wife? Her response: Silence (quite golden). She spoke under her breath to him on that same 3-way call: "You betrayed me maan". ???? Another phone call, he asked her: "Did I tell you I am going back to my wife & children?" Her response: "Why should I answer that", despite his pleading for her to just answer the question she could help but to appeal to him by saying "She's crazy ...." (Singing his first name). These conversations lead me to know no more fear and intimidation. I exposed with great gusto. How was your response to DDay? Posted via Mobile Device

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