| ME 1. Arranged Marriage - married for 1 year now-no kids. 2. I donot like/love my wife. I donot find her attractive. MY WIFE 3. She is kind, patient, very adamant. 4. She claims she loves me and doesnot want to divorce me. ISSUES: 1. We talk about our issues. After a while she forgets about them and behaves as if we have no issues. When I remind her after a while, she asks me what the problem is. I get mad that she doesnt take my marriage issues seriously. I told her a list of things and have not seen any progress. We agreed multiple times that if there is no progress then we should part, although she doesnt like leaving me. 2. I donot talk to her because, I feel better its lesser head ache than to deal with her. 3. In my most recent discussion after a fight, I made it clear to her that this will be the last chance, and I told her that if she agrees to working on one of my problems I am concerned about, then I will reconsider divorce. Two months have passed and she thinks everything is normal. Yesterday we had a fight because she wanted to go for a walk, and I told her no because she hasn't made any progress on what we agreed upon. She said she had no idea what I was talking about. I deliberately did not remind her what we agreed upon. When we spoke about it last time, we almost came to point that I was 90% positive that I was giving her a divorce and this was the only condition on which I was willing to agree to reconsider my decision. She wept and said she will work on it, and now she doesnt even remember it. This is not the first time that it happened. Many of my issues have been unresolved. I no longer talk to her. In the whole of 1 year, I would have spoken about 50 sentences to her excluding the argument sessions because I can hardly speak to someone who doesn't empathize with my issues. She feels that everything is okay and when I remind her about what we spoke, she usually doesn't remember those issues. 4. The last time we had a disagreement, I was angry and tried to ease the situation by trying to pinch her nose, but she slapped me in the face and that was the end of it. I did not hit her back. 5. Yesterday she wanted me to go for a walk. I told her no many times, she would let me sleep and kept dragging me and pestering me. I was frantically trying to get myself away from her and go back to sleep and in the process hit her hand. Then she called 911 and reported " My husband is beating me". The police came and we had a chat with the police. I donot know if I should live with this woman. I know she is kind and takes care of me. But, if she called 911 reporting that I am beating her, all that I see is that she doesnt love me although she says she loves me with all her heart. If she really loves me, she wouldn't be afraid of me, she would have known that I am not capable of hurting her having lived with her for 1 year. I donot want to live with a woman who is afraid of me, I would rather think that she would trust me so much that even if I did hurt her, she would see through it. She complains about me to her family and tells me that I am a pathetic husband. I decided that I should move on and leave her before we have kids. I have cut off my friends, and I am not myself since I got married. I stay late at work to avoid going home. | |||
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Should I divorce or not?
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