weight quandry

I don't mean this to sound shallow, but whenever I tend to pursue a woman it ends up long term, not sure if its because I'm always forcing myself to look past the obvious characteristics in a person, or if I'm just a bad ender. One thing I have come to doubt about myself is my ability to remain sexually attracted to the same person, especially when I look back at the women I've been with they are still just as gorgeous as when I met them, except prone to weight issues. I always thought they were very beautiful, but the sex appeal seemed to go away when we got too comfortable. So when you meet one of those women who are stunning, and sexy but overweight, are you able to see yourselves remaining sexually attracted to her? Part of this is just my insecurity speaking, but part is from me personal heartfelt experience - my ex W was at one point well into obese territory (though she was able to carry it much better than most women could, she could easily hide 20 or 30 pounds). I was never repulsed by her and genuinely found her remarkably beautiful, but seeing her undressed did nothing to evoke lust in me - there was just no sex appeal, but nor was she ever seductive or tried to be alluring for me, but I think it was mostly she didn't have the feminine hourglass shape (I know, I'm being shallow here, but having her curves go in the right direction seems to be a big thing to my sexual response). Would you pursue someone who was very attractive for the time being but you suspect will not do it for you a few years down the road? Or would you save both of you the heartache and leave the beautiful woman be?

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