Getting Divorced But trying to work on it

We have been married for 15 years, we have three teen children. Tons of Problmes, he cheated once, i cheated once, different pesonalities, sexual differences, trouble seeing eye to eye on the kids, fianances, the regualr daily annoyances/pet peeves. Just about every problem you could have in a marriage we have had. If you can imagine it we have been through it and that is not an understatment. We have also tried regular weekly hour sessions of couseling but it has been a long time. So the past few weeks he has been hell bent on divorce, me not so much i think we could work it out if we both worked on it but if not then yes divorce is it. I gave options like marriage retreats but he was/is still ready for divorce and I am giving into it. I hired an attorney this week to start the process. He has agreed after i told him i hired an attorney to marriage retreats or counseling. We both have agreed to follow through with the divorce paper work so it gives us a deadline for making it work or to create a crap or get off the pot situation. In our state we have to wait six months for it to be final becasue of the kids. now the task at hand is to find a place that can actually help our marriage. I think it needs to be focused on making each of us bettter people as well as making our marriage stronger. I would like to start with a retreat to get us away from life kids etc so we can focus on Us each of our own problems and our marriage and maybe have a bit of fun if possiable. Do any of you know of anything that actualy helped any one. When thinking of this think of the people you looked at and though wow they should have never married, or those you think if any one whould get divorced it whould be them but yet they did something and it made them last a life time. I need that kind of thing. I am not looking for the paid actors testimonial i am looking for real and intense life altering stuff here. Its the last chance for us.

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