I'm lost...

First time posting to a forum like this. I hope I can do an adequate job of explaining my situation. I've been married almost 15 years and have two children. My wife and I both have our issues, and we've been through a lot of stress. My wife has continually said she's unhappy with our marriage and that she feels that she's not being listened to. She often erupts in fury at me and one of our children. I have tried, I really have, to listen to her and help her, but it seems that nothing works. She says that my words are empty and that there's no point talking any more, that nothing changes. Her demands are not unreasonable. She wants help with keeping the house clean, dealing with the kids, etc. I feel that I do a lot--I take the kids to school, do the dishes, etc. But if I ever slack off, and of course that happens, she starts to feel abused and abandoned. Eventually, she always explodes. I can just never do enough, it seems. I am probably not the easiest person to live with--I try, but I have certain health problems that reduce my quality of life, and I'm quite frustrated with my career. Still, I have never wanted to be the kind of person that takes other people for granted and have really made efforts to meet her half way. But nothing is every good enough. She's very depressed, resents me, and says she wants to leave me and the child she gets mad at. Whenever I try to talk to her, she gets angry, says I'm a hypocrite and brushes me off. I'm simply unable to communicate with her. I can live with the lack of affection, maybe. But the yelling is just too much. We're going (if she doesn't bail) to see a marriage counselor in a couple of days. I hope that helps. But the fundamental question I'm wrestling with is: how can I tell if it's worth it trying to work on this marriage? How can I tell what's my responsibility and what's not? She's usually a sweet person, but she creates tremendous stress for herself, and this causes her to become angry, depressed, and to blame others. Help!

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