Getting together w/ExBF for coffee - advice?

Hello everyone! I'll try to keep this simple: The breakup: In September 2012 my boyfriend told me he wanted to break up. That he didn't feel the same way anymore, and that even though he loved me, I have hurt him (This is because he wanted space, and I kept being needy and asking him whats wrong. Then when he'd push himself away from me, I'd get angry and demand answers and yell). THE NC In October 2012 after a month of us doing NC he told me he still loves me, and even though we were broken up, he'd like to be friends and see each other. But we had a fight again because I was begging/pleading/trying to reconcile (I know - I made a mistake). So 2 days later he met someone and started seeing her immediately, and invited me to coffee to tell me he has a new girlfriend, and that I should leave him alone because we can't be friends anymore. And that I've ruined any chances I have with him because I promised I would change and then didn't. (TALK ABOUT HAVING YOUR HEART BROKEN IN HALF) So since then til now (2.5 months) I was complete NC. No texts, no calls, we're not friends on FB, no nothing. In this time I did some self-discovery. I'm now happy, healthy, and I've really moved forward with my life. The INITIAL CONTACT And now that I have a new perspective on our relationship, I invited him for coffee. My intention is to show him I've changed - and even if we don't get back together, I'd like for him to have a good last image of me versus the needy annoying girl he last saw. It took him 5 days to get back to me and accept my offer. Tonight he told me he doesn't fully trust me because I can get needy too quickly like I have in the past (I can't believe he is still holding onto that...). He sounded really closed off. He also mentioned that the reason it took him 5 days to get back to me was because it was his girlfriend's birthday and he was busy with that. I'm not sure if this was to make me jealous, but it did hurt me a little bit. He also said that if we want to have a friendship, I'm going to have to respect that he needs to ask her for permission to hangout with me....da fuq?? He has agreed to have coffee with me nonetheless. So my question is: what do I say on this coffee-date? How can I get him to act less cold around me and open up to me again? I understand I've hurt him in the past, but I've done a lot of reflecting over the past few months, and would like to show him that. Any advice, please?

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