I was inspired to make this thread because the one guy friend I have is showing signs of interest. We have been friends for five years and I always relied on him to be a friend. We don't meet up a lot and we never flirt etc. I always talk to him as if he was a brother...e.g it's not that deep when we don't reply to each other and we randomly get in contact but we never ask 'how are you' etc. It is always just so casual (I don't know how to explain).
Anyway I want to know how to be just friends with a guy. The only other guy friend I have had in the past professed his love for me so that didn't work out. After that I learnt how to gauge signs of interest and I usually shut it down from the beginning which is why I haven't since had any guy friends. I am not saying that all guys I meet show interest but the ones who don't just don't make effort to be anything more than acquaintances. And the ones who DO want to get to know me more only want to be more than friends.
When this happens I don't let it escalate and I practically cut them off (I would rather not be friends with someone at all than to keep them in a 'friend zone' knowing that they really want something more). Do you guys (and girls) think this is the correct approach to take? And guys, do you mostly pursue relationships with girls only if it is more than a frriendship? I feel like guys can't be bothered to be friends with girls, the ones who do are just interested in something more... is this true for you?
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