Hello all. New to the boards and was hoping for different perspectives and help on what exactly to do here.
There's a lot going on here so I'll try to condense it so there's not too big of a wall of text.
My girlfriend and I were together for 7 years. I'm the only father figure her teenagers girls know. We split up a few months back and she moved into her mothers basement. She shares the basement with the youngest child who has a separate room down there. I continued to stay in contact with the girls. After a few weeks she started talking to me again. For the past 5 months we have had an on and off sexual relationship. She refuses to commit because she says she doesn't feel like she can be an equal partner to anyone. She cannot work anymore due to a very bad medical condition.
She doesn't talk to me much anymore unless she wants me to come over which is about 4 or 5 times a week. Then she asks me to bring food over or wine. She will text me if one of the girls needs picked up and she can't do it because of her health that day. If she needs to go to the hospital. Basically anything that she can't do herself. I'm the only person she can rely on to help her.
So yesterday she reveals to me that she is going to start "playing" because she's single. I tell her I'm not comfortable with that when she has me helping her out at every turn and already has a sexual relationship with me. She then starts saying that if I can't make peace with that then maybe we shouldn't be seeing each other. I found out through snooping around that she put up a profile on OKCupid looking for new friends and that there is a swinger couple that is a friend of a friend that she is debating on being the "Girlfriend" to the husband. Due to her own jealousy and not willing to share nature I don't know if that will actually happen.
She has anger issues. Trust issues. Mood issues. All sorts of little issues. She claims she doesn't feel human anymore and doesn't feel anything romantic at all for anyone. She has really gotten into reading gay manga and says that those relationships portrayed there are the only time she gets goosebumps anymore.
In my head I know that I can't continue on like this. In my head I'm starting to feel like I'm being used and played. It's starting to feel like she says these things just to see if I will back down.
What also upsets me is that on her profile she claims that she has been the only person raising those kids since they were born. If that was true why do they call me dad? A close mutual friend says that she thinks my ex lies so much that she doesn't realize that she's lying and believes it to be true. She has also said countless times that there is a deep mood disorder going on and a lot of depression. I have no idea about any of it. I just know that I feel really lost in my own life at this point and no direction on how to do things anymore. I know that our relationship can't be again as things are,as much as I would like it to be. If it can ever be again at all.
There's a lot going on here so I'll try to condense it so there's not too big of a wall of text.
My girlfriend and I were together for 7 years. I'm the only father figure her teenagers girls know. We split up a few months back and she moved into her mothers basement. She shares the basement with the youngest child who has a separate room down there. I continued to stay in contact with the girls. After a few weeks she started talking to me again. For the past 5 months we have had an on and off sexual relationship. She refuses to commit because she says she doesn't feel like she can be an equal partner to anyone. She cannot work anymore due to a very bad medical condition.
She doesn't talk to me much anymore unless she wants me to come over which is about 4 or 5 times a week. Then she asks me to bring food over or wine. She will text me if one of the girls needs picked up and she can't do it because of her health that day. If she needs to go to the hospital. Basically anything that she can't do herself. I'm the only person she can rely on to help her.
So yesterday she reveals to me that she is going to start "playing" because she's single. I tell her I'm not comfortable with that when she has me helping her out at every turn and already has a sexual relationship with me. She then starts saying that if I can't make peace with that then maybe we shouldn't be seeing each other. I found out through snooping around that she put up a profile on OKCupid looking for new friends and that there is a swinger couple that is a friend of a friend that she is debating on being the "Girlfriend" to the husband. Due to her own jealousy and not willing to share nature I don't know if that will actually happen.
She has anger issues. Trust issues. Mood issues. All sorts of little issues. She claims she doesn't feel human anymore and doesn't feel anything romantic at all for anyone. She has really gotten into reading gay manga and says that those relationships portrayed there are the only time she gets goosebumps anymore.
In my head I know that I can't continue on like this. In my head I'm starting to feel like I'm being used and played. It's starting to feel like she says these things just to see if I will back down.
What also upsets me is that on her profile she claims that she has been the only person raising those kids since they were born. If that was true why do they call me dad? A close mutual friend says that she thinks my ex lies so much that she doesn't realize that she's lying and believes it to be true. She has also said countless times that there is a deep mood disorder going on and a lot of depression. I have no idea about any of it. I just know that I feel really lost in my own life at this point and no direction on how to do things anymore. I know that our relationship can't be again as things are,as much as I would like it to be. If it can ever be again at all.
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