This seems to be the most used reason for staying in a sexless, loveless or empty marriage and it is also, in my opinion the worst reason to stay together. I am a divorced & re married man and my two sons were a lot happier spending time in two places with happy parents than being in one place with two unhappy ones. Children can sense and see when things aren't right and unless you are a highly accomplished actor who can pull off the impossible and show nothing but loving feelings toward your spouse, even though you two are in a bad place, then you are hurting your kids. Kids notice everything from non touching, affection, arguing, not talking, sleeping separate etc. What usually happens is they grow up believing one of two things, it is the "norm" to live this way or marriage never works so don't bother. We are the biggest role models for our kids and even though divorce sends out a negative message, staying sends out a larger one.
I think a lot of people stay together for themselves and use the kids as an excuse. They don't want to pay child support, maintain their own place, possibly work 2 jobs etc. Thankfully my wife never came between me and my sons and I got to see them as much as I could, it averaged every 3 days, including alternate weekends, holidays were always compromised, we never had to pick and choose, we shared them all. It was still rough not growing up with them every day and sadly she was an "enabler" and my "rules" became unimportant, but that is another ugly story.
Leaving is super hard and in my case, she cheated, divorced me and took my choices away, which really are a blessing now.
First and foremost, couples need to fix things for themselves and it will benefit the kids. If there is no chance, you have to move on. "Unhappy marriages make unhappy children". Think about it.
I think a lot of people stay together for themselves and use the kids as an excuse. They don't want to pay child support, maintain their own place, possibly work 2 jobs etc. Thankfully my wife never came between me and my sons and I got to see them as much as I could, it averaged every 3 days, including alternate weekends, holidays were always compromised, we never had to pick and choose, we shared them all. It was still rough not growing up with them every day and sadly she was an "enabler" and my "rules" became unimportant, but that is another ugly story.
Leaving is super hard and in my case, she cheated, divorced me and took my choices away, which really are a blessing now.
First and foremost, couples need to fix things for themselves and it will benefit the kids. If there is no chance, you have to move on. "Unhappy marriages make unhappy children". Think about it.
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