What is the general rule for or during a separation? What is the difference between separation and a divorce? I do know that with one, you're still legally married but I know everyone has a different definition. And what does separation really mean?
I've asked my husband (been together 7 years total, married 3) to move out in two weeks (on his next paycheck). I've had enough of "us"; the lack of communication, respect, trust and love. To top things off, he's got a serious mood swings due to his mental addiction to MJ and he gets violent (breaks things around the house) when he's irritated. I have realized that I am no longer in love with my husband but I didn't want to be a quitter like I have been in my previous marriage so I've hung in there for my daughter's sake (she's 3 1/2) but now I realize it's pointless if it's an unhealthy relationship.
Our relationship has always been rocky and I probably made a bad judgment call initially. But what's done is done and I honestly feel like being by myself (of course with my daughter too). But I'm confused, wondering if I'm making the right decision and of course have to deal with the uncertainty of my financial hardship.
My husband is currently angry with me so he is not speaking to me at the moment. He can be very immature and I don't know what he thinks this "separation" means to him. Nor do I know how much he will help with child support. He mentioned he will help pay for her school which is $600/month 3 weeks ago (when we thought we were splitting up then) but now he's going back on his word.
I want to be civil and fair but I want to make sure I'm still covered financially (especially since I don't make as much salary as he does and I'll have the higher rent then he will). I heard that child support is based on salary and since he doesn't make 100k, I heard it might be a few hundred dollars. Does anyone have more information on this or know of any other support?
I guess I'm a bit confused myself with all this because I'm not terribly sad and I am able to go about my day as if it's not happening. Not sure if it's because I'm so numb from everything that's happened over the years or it's because I am in denial. Since I am unable to trust my emotions at the moment, I just wanted to get some feedback on what it sounds like to a 3rd party. I guess I feel a bit guilty too.
Sincerely Confused.
I've asked my husband (been together 7 years total, married 3) to move out in two weeks (on his next paycheck). I've had enough of "us"; the lack of communication, respect, trust and love. To top things off, he's got a serious mood swings due to his mental addiction to MJ and he gets violent (breaks things around the house) when he's irritated. I have realized that I am no longer in love with my husband but I didn't want to be a quitter like I have been in my previous marriage so I've hung in there for my daughter's sake (she's 3 1/2) but now I realize it's pointless if it's an unhealthy relationship.
Our relationship has always been rocky and I probably made a bad judgment call initially. But what's done is done and I honestly feel like being by myself (of course with my daughter too). But I'm confused, wondering if I'm making the right decision and of course have to deal with the uncertainty of my financial hardship.
My husband is currently angry with me so he is not speaking to me at the moment. He can be very immature and I don't know what he thinks this "separation" means to him. Nor do I know how much he will help with child support. He mentioned he will help pay for her school which is $600/month 3 weeks ago (when we thought we were splitting up then) but now he's going back on his word.
I want to be civil and fair but I want to make sure I'm still covered financially (especially since I don't make as much salary as he does and I'll have the higher rent then he will). I heard that child support is based on salary and since he doesn't make 100k, I heard it might be a few hundred dollars. Does anyone have more information on this or know of any other support?
I guess I'm a bit confused myself with all this because I'm not terribly sad and I am able to go about my day as if it's not happening. Not sure if it's because I'm so numb from everything that's happened over the years or it's because I am in denial. Since I am unable to trust my emotions at the moment, I just wanted to get some feedback on what it sounds like to a 3rd party. I guess I feel a bit guilty too.
Sincerely Confused.
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