I'm worried that my husband and I are heading towards divorce. We have no intimacy left (sexual or otherwise) and essentially live like roommates. We've been married 7 years, no kids. I realized that it was always me making the first move - saying I love you each day, hugging him or asking for a hug, holding his hand, initiating sex (although he did used to do this occasionally). So when I stopped (after talking to him about how I'd love for him to step up) he just let it drop. When I tried to get him to talk about our relationship not being affectionate or close, he made the comment "well, you're my wife, not my best friend". When I talked about seeing a therapist he proudly announced that this would never happen - he didn't believe in talking about personal stuff with a stranger. He will not communicate. We now are lucky to have sex once every other month. I kiss him goodbye on the cheek each morning. He occasionally requests a back scratch in b ed. Sex is ONLY initiated by me - unless he's had too much ambien and then its really BAD sex.
I had kind of accepted the fact that this must be the type of relationship he expects and wants. I decided ok, its either accept that we're "just friends" and live with it or get divorced. REALLY not interested in going through a divorce. I've been there, done that. But now I fear he may be cheating - or looking to cheat (profiles online, going out with vague "I'm meeting the guys" at the last minute). Its very frustrating since I would love to fix us and have tried everything I can think of including "being his girlfriend" - sexy, fun, affectionate. He likes it, but then gives nothing in return. I've tried talking to him and making him aware that I'll do anything to fix us but he won't talk - AT ALL. What am I supposed to do?
I had kind of accepted the fact that this must be the type of relationship he expects and wants. I decided ok, its either accept that we're "just friends" and live with it or get divorced. REALLY not interested in going through a divorce. I've been there, done that. But now I fear he may be cheating - or looking to cheat (profiles online, going out with vague "I'm meeting the guys" at the last minute). Its very frustrating since I would love to fix us and have tried everything I can think of including "being his girlfriend" - sexy, fun, affectionate. He likes it, but then gives nothing in return. I've tried talking to him and making him aware that I'll do anything to fix us but he won't talk - AT ALL. What am I supposed to do?
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