Anon because I don't want my TSR username particularly associated with this information about myself.
So ever since I broke up with my boyfriend almost exactly a year ago, I've opted for the single/fun/teenage/casual sex attitude towards boys. I'd never done it before, and I ended up having a great year.
Anyway, so I had a few one night stands at first (not that many - like 3 in first year), and then this summer slept with another guy a couple times who I liked a little bit but have been friends with since we were 13. Then back to uni and first night of freshers I go home with a guy, and we continue to text every time we want sex basically - a simply booty call. Only actually saw him 3 or 4 times in total though because he got REALLY weird eventually.
So that's my story. Now on to the next bit: I got quite drunk at a club night the other day and bumped into a guy I fancied in my halls last year a bit but didn't know. We ended up hanging out with the same friends all night as we have mutual friends, and he came home with me. We ended up having such a good night talking in bed after sex, and then again the next morning. We got on so well. I couldn't stop thinking about him after that but he didn't message me.
Fast forward 2 days and I go to a gathering/mini party and he's there. Rumour has it he was asking the host if I was going to show up or not. So we end up talking there, flirting, and we go outside for a cigarette just us alone and he tells me he thought we got on really well and he likes me and wants to see me, but go slowly.
I was taken aback because he was implying suddenly we were a "thing" (by saying he wanted to go slow) when I barely knew him or had seen him when I wasn't drunk at a club- but it felt kind of good at the same time. We slept together again that night and stayed in bed for 3 hours the next day laughing, chatting and whatnot. We have now been non-stop messaging in a really nice way.
My problem is every now and then I'll make a sexual flirty joke automatically. That and combined with the fact every time we see each other we seem to be going home together - I'm terrified I might give him the wrong impression despite the fact he did admit he liked me too. I want him to really like me for real, and I know that involves playing hard to get at least a little bit, and not coming across as slutty or easy. I'm just not used to the whole boyfriend thing (not that he's my boyfriend haha! I just mean as opposed to the casual sex thing) anymore.
Any tips? Like, should I cut out the sexual jokes completely or not? Should I invite him round when I can't physically have sex e.g. time of the month or something, and just have a normal night with him? He wants to take it slow so I don't think inviting him on dates is what he (or even me) wants right now so soon.I also want him to instigate that so he can take it at his own speed.
Any help on how to behave like a potential girlfriend rather than a booty call would be great.
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