Since separating from my ex, I occasionally have this fantasy where I run into him somewhere. In my fantasy he looks like hell and is alone and/or with a total she-beast. Meanwhile I look like I could be on the cover of Vogue, just got a raise, and have some dude with a six pack on my arm.
I use this fantasy occasionally when I am at the gym - for some reason it makes me workout longer/harder/faster. I realize it is totally stupid and childish and I'm starting to wonder if it's detrimental to my recovery? New Therapist says it's fine as long as it's not obsessive, but I'm kind of wondering if it's in the same category as the "mind movies" we make when we discover a cheating spouse.
Do any of you have these thoughts? Do they go away with time? And has anyone had this happen IRL? If so, did it feel good or was it one of those moments you think is going to be awesome, but really it's more like, meh?
I use this fantasy occasionally when I am at the gym - for some reason it makes me workout longer/harder/faster. I realize it is totally stupid and childish and I'm starting to wonder if it's detrimental to my recovery? New Therapist says it's fine as long as it's not obsessive, but I'm kind of wondering if it's in the same category as the "mind movies" we make when we discover a cheating spouse.
Do any of you have these thoughts? Do they go away with time? And has anyone had this happen IRL? If so, did it feel good or was it one of those moments you think is going to be awesome, but really it's more like, meh?
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