Hi,
This is my first post. Trying to figure out what to do with my situation.
I've been married for 25 years and we're both in our forties. My husband and I have two kids (20, 23). They are in college but still live at home. I've been a SAHM until recently. I recently got a part time job. Here's the issue:
We no longer talk with any substance or are intimate. We've been drifting apart over the past 10-12 years. He's been the provider so I have no financial independence. We live in an apartment in my parent's house so I have security. He's not abusive, a cheater, or a horrible person. He works hard, has spent time with the kids growing up (coaching, birthday parties, etc) and they have good relationships. I usually end up sitting watching tv by myself if my kids aren't home. I sometimes go upstairs and talk to my parents. He works in the other room. I know he's not looking at porn or spending time on questionable sites, etc (I've seen the browsing history and the door is always open when he's working) We've had conversations about our relationship several times. We just go through the motions of husband and wife. He has shown no initiative to improve the relationship. I haven't done much other than point out that we don't have a relationship. I don't feel that he really wants to try at building the relationship back. He hasn't said that directly but his actions are saying it all. I don't know what to do. Any advice/ help?
Thank you.
This is my first post. Trying to figure out what to do with my situation.
I've been married for 25 years and we're both in our forties. My husband and I have two kids (20, 23). They are in college but still live at home. I've been a SAHM until recently. I recently got a part time job. Here's the issue:
We no longer talk with any substance or are intimate. We've been drifting apart over the past 10-12 years. He's been the provider so I have no financial independence. We live in an apartment in my parent's house so I have security. He's not abusive, a cheater, or a horrible person. He works hard, has spent time with the kids growing up (coaching, birthday parties, etc) and they have good relationships. I usually end up sitting watching tv by myself if my kids aren't home. I sometimes go upstairs and talk to my parents. He works in the other room. I know he's not looking at porn or spending time on questionable sites, etc (I've seen the browsing history and the door is always open when he's working) We've had conversations about our relationship several times. We just go through the motions of husband and wife. He has shown no initiative to improve the relationship. I haven't done much other than point out that we don't have a relationship. I don't feel that he really wants to try at building the relationship back. He hasn't said that directly but his actions are saying it all. I don't know what to do. Any advice/ help?
Thank you.
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