My husband and I are in our 50s. He has two children (15 and 17) I have none. The 17 y/o doesn't spend any time with us and it breaks my husband's heart so he is preoccupied with finding a way to be close to her. We have the 15 y/o son every other weekend and from Friday night to Sunday night my husband is in total engagement with the son. They go to play paintball every weekend together. On Friday night, they spend all evening preparing for the outing, including going in and out of the bedroom when I am trying to sleep. At night we have to sleep with our door open in case the son needs something. At 8 am on Sat morning, they leave and return at 8pm having eaten and too exhausted to do anything with me. On Sunday morning, my husband is exhausted and the son has to do his homework. ON the weekends we have alone, quite frequently, y husband uses the time to catch up on things. At night my husband comes home dead tired from work and uses his laptop until he goes to bed. We don't eat together except when we go out. I am on a diet. He brings home all kinds of junk food for his son and I asked him to hide this from me because its too hard to not resist. He accused me of not having self control, has mentioned several times how he finds it unacceptable that he has to hide the food for his kids. (cookies, donuts etc.). We have sex about once every month--after I have cried and complained that I am desperate for physical contact. I am not overweight, 5'7' 150, could lose a few pounds, very pretty face, but not skinny like his kids. He texts his kids a lot whenever we are alone. He refuses counseling, gets irritated when I try to discuss this, is perfectly happy with things as they are as long as I just act happy. I am not happy. I have explained my needs to him. He gives in a bit sometimes but no real commitment to making it better. Says its fine how it is. What should I do?
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