In our state, in-home separation is an option. Husband and I will have to talk about this. One person cannot make a marriage work and hopefully it will not take one person to make the divorce work. I don't have the answers to how this will all work yet, that would require me making assumptions I cannot make about his side of this process. I have answers for myself and for when he asks. I have decided not to serve him with papers or even say for sure I want the divorce until after we talk. I want to hear his side and see if there is anything in it that will reveal some hidden truth that our marriage can be something new and different from what it always has been. If I don't see or feel it after we talk, I will move forward.
As a side note, there is not, nor has there ever been, another man waiting in the wings. I have seen so many people on this board suspicious of a woman wanting to leave that she MUST have another interest. I've never so much as batted my eyelashes at another man in 16 years, because that wouldn't be honoring my marriage. Sadly, my husband hasn't had the same view of what honoring a marriage means...
As a side note, there is not, nor has there ever been, another man waiting in the wings. I have seen so many people on this board suspicious of a woman wanting to leave that she MUST have another interest. I've never so much as batted my eyelashes at another man in 16 years, because that wouldn't be honoring my marriage. Sadly, my husband hasn't had the same view of what honoring a marriage means...
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