"fat" friend..

im not really sure what to do about one of my friends.. she believes shes 'fat' despite not looking like she weighs much more than I do, but she has really big boobs.. she is always going on about how shes fat and how skinny i am, and ive been trying to gain weight for a long time because I dont like how i look. so having her compare herself to me is beginning to get annoying. shes always feeling sorry for herself and i try to be positive and lift her up but she just ignores me and is all "woe is me" about her situation. when theres only so much motivation you can try to give someone until it becomes a drain on you. i try to avoid talking about anything related to weight, but she always manages to steer the conversation that way! i was talking about buying a present for a friend and she somehow managed to turn it into her and her weight.

one night i was feeling low about myself so i decided to talk about it to her, because ive given her a lot of support and tried to be positive and make her feel better. i said i dont like how i look and her response was "shut up" and "cheer up". i felt like this was a bit insensitive when i couldve said the same to her whenever she moans, but i dont. if i did, i know she'd go mental or make out im some sort of bitch, but its okay for her to disregard others when theyre feeling down.

so should i just ignore her, tell her to shut up or continue being positive? because in my opinion shes just beginning to sound pathetic and is fishing for compliments rather than genuinely discussing whats bothering her and trying to change it, she just rejects all suggestions and is like "life is crap it wont get better" etc...

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