Hi everyone,
Looking for some advice here. Backstory is that my husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for over 1 year. In the 6 years together, we have moved between three countries, which was stressful. We also have had problems throughout our relationship, mainly related to my depression.
Right after Christmas, he told me he wanted a divorce. I said no and we are now separated. We still live in the same apartment, but separate lives (separate bedrooms). I have been in therapy for the last several months in order to help me deal with all my emotions. I was doing great until a few weeks ago when my husband told me he has a girlfriend. This girlfriend is his assistant who he was having an emotional affair with last summer. To make matters worse, I found naked pictures of them two on his computer from their New Year Eve hotel stay :(
I have been a complete wreck since I found out about how deep his relationship is with his gf. All the progress I made in therapy has gone downhill. My therapist has had one session with my husband recently and believes my husband is just confuse at the moment. She thinks that in order for me move forward and for my husband to start healing, I will need to forgive my husband. He has put me through hell the last few months. I cannot honestly look him in the face and say I forgive him when I am still so angry and hurt. I want to stop feeling so horrible and be able to function normally again, but I can't forgive at the moment. Am I being selfish for saying no I won't forgive him??
-Feeling Sad-
Looking for some advice here. Backstory is that my husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for over 1 year. In the 6 years together, we have moved between three countries, which was stressful. We also have had problems throughout our relationship, mainly related to my depression.
Right after Christmas, he told me he wanted a divorce. I said no and we are now separated. We still live in the same apartment, but separate lives (separate bedrooms). I have been in therapy for the last several months in order to help me deal with all my emotions. I was doing great until a few weeks ago when my husband told me he has a girlfriend. This girlfriend is his assistant who he was having an emotional affair with last summer. To make matters worse, I found naked pictures of them two on his computer from their New Year Eve hotel stay :(
I have been a complete wreck since I found out about how deep his relationship is with his gf. All the progress I made in therapy has gone downhill. My therapist has had one session with my husband recently and believes my husband is just confuse at the moment. She thinks that in order for me move forward and for my husband to start healing, I will need to forgive my husband. He has put me through hell the last few months. I cannot honestly look him in the face and say I forgive him when I am still so angry and hurt. I want to stop feeling so horrible and be able to function normally again, but I can't forgive at the moment. Am I being selfish for saying no I won't forgive him??
-Feeling Sad-
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