My husband and I met 7 years ago and have been married for 5 years ~ 2 beautiful children (2 & 4 years). He has consistently had inappropriate behaviors with other women - my family, co-workers etc. I don't think he's physically cheated but the intent is for surely there. I've always caught it before it began...
He had a GF when we met which I wanted no parts of - and I didn't. He broke up with her and we eventually started dating. 1 month after being married and 3 months pregnant, I found out he cheated on his EX with my cousin (who introduced us!) for over 6 months, they were even saying I LOVE YOU. What a blow.
Since then I have not been able to put that behind me and he has continually screwed up with everyone from babysitters to EX's. Texts, FB, emails and pone calls. He is an only child who has always had his way and nothing is ever good-enough. Cars, homes, vacations, guns - he always wants the biggest and best.
We have been separated for 2 months and I start private counseling tomorrow for clarity on my feelings. He swears this was the last time but I've heard that 10 thousand times. I met with HIS counselor on Monday because he wanted a 'feel for me' and my views. --- This counselor told me at least 5 times the easiest thing for me would be divorce. My husband looked like he was going to punch him but I'm not sure if he was hinting to me 'this man will never change' or scaring my husband to grow up and act like a married man.
My gut says move-on but my heart says he has lost everything and this may be what he needed. He is a FANTASTIC father and husband when these other women aren't in the picture. We are living 2.5 hours away from each other since he was transferred for work... I just don't know what to do... Stick around for more BS or is this the LAST TIME. Can a person really change?
He had a GF when we met which I wanted no parts of - and I didn't. He broke up with her and we eventually started dating. 1 month after being married and 3 months pregnant, I found out he cheated on his EX with my cousin (who introduced us!) for over 6 months, they were even saying I LOVE YOU. What a blow.
Since then I have not been able to put that behind me and he has continually screwed up with everyone from babysitters to EX's. Texts, FB, emails and pone calls. He is an only child who has always had his way and nothing is ever good-enough. Cars, homes, vacations, guns - he always wants the biggest and best.
We have been separated for 2 months and I start private counseling tomorrow for clarity on my feelings. He swears this was the last time but I've heard that 10 thousand times. I met with HIS counselor on Monday because he wanted a 'feel for me' and my views. --- This counselor told me at least 5 times the easiest thing for me would be divorce. My husband looked like he was going to punch him but I'm not sure if he was hinting to me 'this man will never change' or scaring my husband to grow up and act like a married man.
My gut says move-on but my heart says he has lost everything and this may be what he needed. He is a FANTASTIC father and husband when these other women aren't in the picture. We are living 2.5 hours away from each other since he was transferred for work... I just don't know what to do... Stick around for more BS or is this the LAST TIME. Can a person really change?
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