I think my wife MIGHT be having affair…she's asleep right now and I'm looking for some thoughts...
So here's my story and few things that have happened to me in my brief marriage.
Met my wife three years ago, instant mutual attraction, off the charts sex, and we were engaged 10 months later. She is 27, I'm 30. Wonderful wedding day, good honeymoon - but immediately afterwards things went sour and I'm not sure why. We are approaching the third year of marriage.
Some notes:
1. I worked a lot of long hours in our first year of marriage. Like 10-12 hour days. She did not like this, but I was a manager and we working against some tight deadlines.
2. After the honeymoon was over, it took us three months to have sex again. Then another two months afterwards to have sex again.
3. After our first year of marriage, she gained a ton of weight, at least 35 lbs. She has been seeing a counselor, and has been on Strattera, Lamictal, and Cymbalta. She was on another drug that I forget the name of. She has went through bouts of depression her entire life.
4. I am getting yelled at, ALL THE TIME. I will be sitting watching TV with her, and she will start picking a fight with me for no real reason. She picks on me for being too thin and it's ruining myself esteem. I asked if she thought I was good looking and she did not answer.
5. I am often told that I do not make enough money. She works at a company where a lot of guys are making great money and she has to travel for her job, so she is around other men a lot. I make a decent living, but we are not rich.
6. We went on a trip for our second anniversary and she refused to sleep with me, and she gave me a dirty look when I tried to initiate sex. I would say that we maybe have had sex 10-15 times in our entire marriage (2 years, 9 months total)
7. She does not like to be hugged by me at all. I tried kissing her on the cheek the other morning prior to us leaving for work and she winced.
8. This past December, we went to her companies Holiday party together and her co-workers were acting kind of weird around me. They would stare at me for a long time and look confused, and look away. Maybe I'm being too paranoid.
9. She talks, at least once a week, about her female co-workers flirting with other guys in the office. Married men going out to lunch with married women.
10. We are in marriage counseling. Our marriage counselor once asked her if she thought would be OK if I had my needs met by another woman. She really didn't have a response.
11. My wife seems to have no friends, except her mom. She seems to get home everyday at 5:15pm. So, if she is with someone, it's on her lunch breaks ONLY. She doesn't leave my sight during the weekends.
Obviously, my marriage is in shambles, I have been thinking about divorce since Christmas. But I love this woman so much…I just feel like something is up.
Thoughts?
So here's my story and few things that have happened to me in my brief marriage.
Met my wife three years ago, instant mutual attraction, off the charts sex, and we were engaged 10 months later. She is 27, I'm 30. Wonderful wedding day, good honeymoon - but immediately afterwards things went sour and I'm not sure why. We are approaching the third year of marriage.
Some notes:
1. I worked a lot of long hours in our first year of marriage. Like 10-12 hour days. She did not like this, but I was a manager and we working against some tight deadlines.
2. After the honeymoon was over, it took us three months to have sex again. Then another two months afterwards to have sex again.
3. After our first year of marriage, she gained a ton of weight, at least 35 lbs. She has been seeing a counselor, and has been on Strattera, Lamictal, and Cymbalta. She was on another drug that I forget the name of. She has went through bouts of depression her entire life.
4. I am getting yelled at, ALL THE TIME. I will be sitting watching TV with her, and she will start picking a fight with me for no real reason. She picks on me for being too thin and it's ruining myself esteem. I asked if she thought I was good looking and she did not answer.
5. I am often told that I do not make enough money. She works at a company where a lot of guys are making great money and she has to travel for her job, so she is around other men a lot. I make a decent living, but we are not rich.
6. We went on a trip for our second anniversary and she refused to sleep with me, and she gave me a dirty look when I tried to initiate sex. I would say that we maybe have had sex 10-15 times in our entire marriage (2 years, 9 months total)
7. She does not like to be hugged by me at all. I tried kissing her on the cheek the other morning prior to us leaving for work and she winced.
8. This past December, we went to her companies Holiday party together and her co-workers were acting kind of weird around me. They would stare at me for a long time and look confused, and look away. Maybe I'm being too paranoid.
9. She talks, at least once a week, about her female co-workers flirting with other guys in the office. Married men going out to lunch with married women.
10. We are in marriage counseling. Our marriage counselor once asked her if she thought would be OK if I had my needs met by another woman. She really didn't have a response.
11. My wife seems to have no friends, except her mom. She seems to get home everyday at 5:15pm. So, if she is with someone, it's on her lunch breaks ONLY. She doesn't leave my sight during the weekends.
Obviously, my marriage is in shambles, I have been thinking about divorce since Christmas. But I love this woman so much…I just feel like something is up.
Thoughts?
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