Hello everyone and Thank you for taking your time to listen to my story. I have been reading so many stories on here and everyone is so bright and talented. It's really uplifting.
I have been with my fiancé for 10 yrs, engaged 3 years and have an amazing, wonderful, beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
I posted last summer on here about my fiancé possibly having an EA with someone. ( I apologize I didn't respond to all the amazing responses I received last summer.) I never really confronted her about it. (I have always been so afraid to lose her and my family) However, I put a ton of effort into the relationship since then, I really went overboard. It's not like I wasn't doing these things before, but now I just did them better and more often. Our relationship improved for a short time, then declined during the holidays. I confronted her about how distant we have been getting and she became angry at me for asking. The conversation didn't continue. Since I felt that she wasn't being totally honest, I did some more snooping and found some conversations (SMS) that she was having with someone that she works with. To sum up the conversations, she was saying how she wishes I would leave and never return, and she is purposely making my life "miserable" so I will leave, how unhappy she is..etc. She also made a joke to this person how she yelled at me for bringing up how distant we have been lately. I also discovered that she has a major crush on another man that she had met. I don't believe any PA has happened as of yet. She has never really communicated to me at all that she is unhappy nor that she wants me to leave. Besides being a bit distant, she really acts normal. If I didn't do any of this snooping I wouldn't have known what she really feels.
Well, I have made the decision to separate from her. I am making appointments with attorneys and looking for a place to move. Reason why I am posting in this forum is that I can't stop thinking about missing my daughter when I'm not with her. Even if I am able to get joint custody, my heart just breaks at the thought of not seeing her. Entangled with the loss of my relationship and living now with someone who really can't stand me. I am trying my hardest to work on myself but it's difficult in that toxic environment. I am just trying to stay strong for my daughter. If anyone else has been through this, how do you cope with not being able to see your child every day? I just tears me up inside.
I have been with my fiancé for 10 yrs, engaged 3 years and have an amazing, wonderful, beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
I posted last summer on here about my fiancé possibly having an EA with someone. ( I apologize I didn't respond to all the amazing responses I received last summer.) I never really confronted her about it. (I have always been so afraid to lose her and my family) However, I put a ton of effort into the relationship since then, I really went overboard. It's not like I wasn't doing these things before, but now I just did them better and more often. Our relationship improved for a short time, then declined during the holidays. I confronted her about how distant we have been getting and she became angry at me for asking. The conversation didn't continue. Since I felt that she wasn't being totally honest, I did some more snooping and found some conversations (SMS) that she was having with someone that she works with. To sum up the conversations, she was saying how she wishes I would leave and never return, and she is purposely making my life "miserable" so I will leave, how unhappy she is..etc. She also made a joke to this person how she yelled at me for bringing up how distant we have been lately. I also discovered that she has a major crush on another man that she had met. I don't believe any PA has happened as of yet. She has never really communicated to me at all that she is unhappy nor that she wants me to leave. Besides being a bit distant, she really acts normal. If I didn't do any of this snooping I wouldn't have known what she really feels.
Well, I have made the decision to separate from her. I am making appointments with attorneys and looking for a place to move. Reason why I am posting in this forum is that I can't stop thinking about missing my daughter when I'm not with her. Even if I am able to get joint custody, my heart just breaks at the thought of not seeing her. Entangled with the loss of my relationship and living now with someone who really can't stand me. I am trying my hardest to work on myself but it's difficult in that toxic environment. I am just trying to stay strong for my daughter. If anyone else has been through this, how do you cope with not being able to see your child every day? I just tears me up inside.
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