This is a 10 year relationship -
Our first year together was extremely volatile so we each sought individual therapy and worked on our own issues, allowing us to have a very happy and loving relationship. Her kids are my kids, my daughter is her daughter, we have a dog that we love very much and he loves us (as long as we have treats).
Two years ago I was laid off from my job but was always able to pay my bills and still get groceries. We share the cooking, she does most of the cleaning, I take care of the home maintenance. The kids are still in college and as long as they are in college, we support them. It's not always easy but it's been working.
Anyway, about a year ago, maybe more she began to complain that I wasn't giving her enough loving attention in the sense that I never initiated sex. I have concluded that during our relationship, I have never denied her affection when she asked for it or when she came to me for a kiss or hug, however I HAVE been denied on many occasions, particularly when she is mad at me. I think that shied me away from requesting it.
I looked hard to replace the job that I had and she kept pushing me harder and harder. I held my ground and finally landed a good job but I work long hours to prove my worth so they will hire me and I really like what I do. It's much better pay, too.
Several months ago I noticed she was coming home really late at night and started to suspect she may be cheating but shook off the feeling. Soon she began accusing me of cheating and asking me where I had been, what I had been doing and getting overall suspicious. I had nothing to hide but it kept up and nothing I said would change the way she was thinking.
Recently I made her mad and typically when it's bad, I could spend three or four days in the dog house (no, I didn't cheat or lie or hit her) but it's been almost a month now and recently she asked me to move out of the bedroom. She said I made her feel like I wouldn't be there for her if and when she ever needed me. I don't want to make her feel like that AND I feel like she emotionally abuses me, which is my own fault because I let her.
Anyway, thanks for listening. I think it's done but would love to hear what others might think.
Our first year together was extremely volatile so we each sought individual therapy and worked on our own issues, allowing us to have a very happy and loving relationship. Her kids are my kids, my daughter is her daughter, we have a dog that we love very much and he loves us (as long as we have treats).
Two years ago I was laid off from my job but was always able to pay my bills and still get groceries. We share the cooking, she does most of the cleaning, I take care of the home maintenance. The kids are still in college and as long as they are in college, we support them. It's not always easy but it's been working.
Anyway, about a year ago, maybe more she began to complain that I wasn't giving her enough loving attention in the sense that I never initiated sex. I have concluded that during our relationship, I have never denied her affection when she asked for it or when she came to me for a kiss or hug, however I HAVE been denied on many occasions, particularly when she is mad at me. I think that shied me away from requesting it.
I looked hard to replace the job that I had and she kept pushing me harder and harder. I held my ground and finally landed a good job but I work long hours to prove my worth so they will hire me and I really like what I do. It's much better pay, too.
Several months ago I noticed she was coming home really late at night and started to suspect she may be cheating but shook off the feeling. Soon she began accusing me of cheating and asking me where I had been, what I had been doing and getting overall suspicious. I had nothing to hide but it kept up and nothing I said would change the way she was thinking.
Recently I made her mad and typically when it's bad, I could spend three or four days in the dog house (no, I didn't cheat or lie or hit her) but it's been almost a month now and recently she asked me to move out of the bedroom. She said I made her feel like I wouldn't be there for her if and when she ever needed me. I don't want to make her feel like that AND I feel like she emotionally abuses me, which is my own fault because I let her.
Anyway, thanks for listening. I think it's done but would love to hear what others might think.
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