I am stuck in the middle of a classic wife / MIL war. Its been going on for years and is now getting worse as we have two small children.
My wife is threatened by my mother. My mother is threatened by my wife. And i am stuck playing mediator.
My wife overreacts to things that my mom does, or doesnt do. She vents to me. I tell my mother to stop. And she gets defensive. And resentful bc she knows its coming from my wife. And the loop continues.
I am partly to blame bc i always attempt to rationalize my moms actions as "she didnt mean to" or "she didnt know any better". I dont think my moms intentions are bad. My wife does. She interprets my rationalizing as me taking my moms side.
My mother thinks that my wife is constantly looking for a fight.
Ive read every article on this and know its a common dillema. Im tired of this dragging on (for years) and need a resolution.
The easiest one is divorce, which comes at the expense of my kids and family. I dont see any other resolution aside from writing my mom off, which is not a fair option.
Help!!!
My wife is threatened by my mother. My mother is threatened by my wife. And i am stuck playing mediator.
My wife overreacts to things that my mom does, or doesnt do. She vents to me. I tell my mother to stop. And she gets defensive. And resentful bc she knows its coming from my wife. And the loop continues.
I am partly to blame bc i always attempt to rationalize my moms actions as "she didnt mean to" or "she didnt know any better". I dont think my moms intentions are bad. My wife does. She interprets my rationalizing as me taking my moms side.
My mother thinks that my wife is constantly looking for a fight.
Ive read every article on this and know its a common dillema. Im tired of this dragging on (for years) and need a resolution.
The easiest one is divorce, which comes at the expense of my kids and family. I dont see any other resolution aside from writing my mom off, which is not a fair option.
Help!!!
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