Loss of trust after your SO has cheated on you is not just losing trust in the other persons fidelity, you lose trust or faith in that person as a whole.
Emotional trust- this person who was supposed to be your emotional safe haven, your confidant , someone you should be able to say anything to your secrets, fears, hopes and dreams suddenly is gone. How can you trust someone with all that when they have proven that you just don't matter or you didn't during their "issues". Trusting someone with your emotions after they have stabbed you in the back takes a long time, my WW talk about our relationship and our household issues but I am much more guarded in other areas how can I not be.
Family decisions- he11 any decision they didn't care about the family, the kids or anything else in their quest to fulfill the selfish desires they held will the choices they make always be in the best interest of the family. I know I have said it here and many others too about how my wife is a good parent but really are they? My kids' health and well being along with their relationship I have with them is priceless, to jeopardize that by acting like a fool is proof enough that the WS's decision making process is screwed up.
Sexual trust- no not whether they are faithful to you, the bedroom is a private intimate place for just you and your SO and now there is another person looking over your shoulder. Not just the mind movies but the performance comparisons that can go through your head, and the loss of the ability to be completely unguarded in the bedroom can be lost forever.
Finally just the trust in this person to ever have your back when the chips are down, when times are tough who is to say they won't cut and run to feed their selfishness instead of being by your side and working through it.
My worry about her being faithful to me is still a concern even though I know where she is and who she is with 24 / 7 but my faith/trust in her as a person is what I think will take the longest to come back if it ever does.
Emotional trust- this person who was supposed to be your emotional safe haven, your confidant , someone you should be able to say anything to your secrets, fears, hopes and dreams suddenly is gone. How can you trust someone with all that when they have proven that you just don't matter or you didn't during their "issues". Trusting someone with your emotions after they have stabbed you in the back takes a long time, my WW talk about our relationship and our household issues but I am much more guarded in other areas how can I not be.
Family decisions- he11 any decision they didn't care about the family, the kids or anything else in their quest to fulfill the selfish desires they held will the choices they make always be in the best interest of the family. I know I have said it here and many others too about how my wife is a good parent but really are they? My kids' health and well being along with their relationship I have with them is priceless, to jeopardize that by acting like a fool is proof enough that the WS's decision making process is screwed up.
Sexual trust- no not whether they are faithful to you, the bedroom is a private intimate place for just you and your SO and now there is another person looking over your shoulder. Not just the mind movies but the performance comparisons that can go through your head, and the loss of the ability to be completely unguarded in the bedroom can be lost forever.
Finally just the trust in this person to ever have your back when the chips are down, when times are tough who is to say they won't cut and run to feed their selfishness instead of being by your side and working through it.
My worry about her being faithful to me is still a concern even though I know where she is and who she is with 24 / 7 but my faith/trust in her as a person is what I think will take the longest to come back if it ever does.
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