Ok, so before my wife an I were married, we were sexually active with each other. We eventually talked of a threesome and eventually had one. Then we had an open and honest talk about what we wanted (one of the things that lead to us getting married) and decided to give swinging a shot. We jumped right in and full swapped in the same room with a couple. After we thought "what just happened". We both agreed to establish some rules about this. One was same room only, no taking the other spouse somewhere. One was Oral only with the other couple. We actually had several, but the more rules we had, the more she seemed to want to break them, especially when drinking. Lately I have been having issues with her keeping secrets from me because I have insecurities and I'm not sure I want to be in this lifestyle. I love fulfilling some fantasies from time to time as does she, but lately it feels like more of a "I got this so now I have to let her do that" and many ti mes it feels like she's pressuring me to do something so she will feel justified in wanting it for herself. She claims she just wants to make me happy but when I told her stopping would make me happy, she said that it would be hard and that she wants to continue. She has also asked if she could do porn as well and I can't seem to get across to her how I don't want her to do this. At one point she even hinted at prostitution without saying she wanted to do it. I know we opened pandora's box. But how can I stabilize my mind and feel more secure? What can I say to her that wont offend her and let her know my insecurities? I don't really want to close pandora's box as much as I want to trust my wife. She has recently "withheld" information from me that makes me think she may have cheated on me, but then I am a bit on the paranoid side. There is so much I could say here... To keep it short, I'll leave it at that.
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