Husband is constantly on either computer or phone

It's easy to just get pissed about things when my husband spends countless hours on the computer and taking up his time with everything else but spending it with me. I am pretty much giving up as that is the way it is. We have been through the whole marriage counseling thing. We watch a movie and he has his phone playing Angry Birds or Bad Piggies or WWF with me if I am playing that night. Most nights I sit in the family room and watch a few shows especially in fall winter months because we lose daylight, but he is typically on his computer in the kitchen area. We can still talk to each other but he is so focused on that thing. It's hard for him to just sit and watch a show without his phone or computer right there. We have been married for over four years now both in our 50s, so our kids are grown. I don't know if this is normal or what. Maybe this is what everyone's married life is like?

We actually get along better now as I don't care as much as I used to. I'm just used to it, but every now and then when I have been paying the bills, cleaning the house, managing the household, working full time, bringing in the mail, opening the mail, managing the budget, cooking, laundry, etc., it gets under my skin. He won't even look at the mail.

I want my marriage to work, but I can't change who he is so I am starting to sort of check out emotionally. That is a dangerous place for me to be. Any advice other than trying to get him to read a self help book. He thinks all that stuff is BS. And if I express my anger about me getting my needs met, we just get into a big fight and it always ends up being my fault.

Also, to clue you in about me. I am not a needy type of female. I am successful and have a very good full time job. But I do want to feel like I have a companion especially at this stage in my life. Maybe I am overreacting, idk...

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