Well i am new here - and here is my story which i would love some advice or input on I am 38 and have been married for 3 years and have a son of 2 yrs of age with my wife. for the last 2 years (after he was born) my wife has not really paid attention to me, and everything to my son (which i understand) but now 2 yrs later and nothing has changed after numerous serious conversations. I feel alone, and not loved, close to no sex or intimacy etc... She is always tired to do anything with me, but never for him (even if i do everything with chores etc, plan a evening out - still doesnt want to, or never looking forward to it) . I have told her numerous times, also did our marriage counsellor that she needs to be a mom and a wife, and she still have not budged much. As well to add to this, she has a major anger management problem - which does not help, which she never apologizes for as well. Its just crazy at times - where she is yelling at me, and i stay calm and talk. (i am a talker - she is not which is another whole issue) - there are a lot of issues let just say. She has never really been affectionate or attentive to me, but now its out of control.
So what has happened of late, in the last 3 months i have become close to a female co-worker who is going through a divorce. We have been friends for a year (before her divorce) and now she is going through a divorce and we have been there for eachother, and one thing led to the next and we have fallen in love with eachother. We have gone out for nice dinners, shopping, day road trips, she has done very nice thoughtful things for me (which no one has done for me) as well me for her.. etc. (your also probably wondering how i get to go out with my wife not wondering, she doesn't really care I go out thats the other thing! ) Anyways this woman she is one of the most amazing people i have ever met (brilliant, beautiful and just fun to be with). Her and i just CLICK. She also has a young daughter as well. I know people may say its just lust, or cause its new - but i know this is different. But as of recent she said she cannot continue this, cause she is going through a tough time with the divorce, and cant be in a relationship now - which i can understand (since i a technically still married by law only), but she doesnt want to lose me out of her life and wants to remain friends. But it does leave me a heart broken, as i feel lost. I have had divorce on my mind, and there is a high chance i would leave my wife for her just cause i feel like i am not appreciated where im at right now and of course many other reasons - and with her i would be very happy, have a sister for my son, and live life happy with someone who shows they love me.
How do i stay friends with someone i love?
Do I remain her friend until her situation changes so i dont lose her? or forget her?
Do i stay in my un-loved marriage so i dont break up our family?
CONFUSED BROWN GUY
So what has happened of late, in the last 3 months i have become close to a female co-worker who is going through a divorce. We have been friends for a year (before her divorce) and now she is going through a divorce and we have been there for eachother, and one thing led to the next and we have fallen in love with eachother. We have gone out for nice dinners, shopping, day road trips, she has done very nice thoughtful things for me (which no one has done for me) as well me for her.. etc. (your also probably wondering how i get to go out with my wife not wondering, she doesn't really care I go out thats the other thing! ) Anyways this woman she is one of the most amazing people i have ever met (brilliant, beautiful and just fun to be with). Her and i just CLICK. She also has a young daughter as well. I know people may say its just lust, or cause its new - but i know this is different. But as of recent she said she cannot continue this, cause she is going through a tough time with the divorce, and cant be in a relationship now - which i can understand (since i a technically still married by law only), but she doesnt want to lose me out of her life and wants to remain friends. But it does leave me a heart broken, as i feel lost. I have had divorce on my mind, and there is a high chance i would leave my wife for her just cause i feel like i am not appreciated where im at right now and of course many other reasons - and with her i would be very happy, have a sister for my son, and live life happy with someone who shows they love me.
How do i stay friends with someone i love?
Do I remain her friend until her situation changes so i dont lose her? or forget her?
Do i stay in my un-loved marriage so i dont break up our family?
CONFUSED BROWN GUY
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