Woosaa (need some advice and reassurance)

Hello everyone, I am in need of some place to vent and def. for advice. I have been seeking TAM advice for a month or so now and it has been a great help. I wanted to put my story out here in order to bring clarity (prob will never get full closure), and to be more at peace. Here is my story: Well I am 26 years old and my wife is 23 yrs old. At this time we are currently separated and she has moved back to her hometown with our almost 3 yr old daughter. Our marriage was very passionate and great until about 5 months ago. I rejoined the U.S. Military and it has been great. My wife was the one who initiate the conversation to rejoin because she saw I did miss it. When we arrived she was going hard at schooling and when I get home I would pretty much do everything. I would take our daughter and sometimes cook as well. I hold myself to a high standard and my wife sometimes fights with me on this when she needs a lazy day. Anyway she was becoming distant when her friend's parent offered to pay for the tickets for a trip overseas. She knew I would be upset about this because I do not like when she is with this friend and also a two week vacation is too much for just one of us. Either way I said ok because "i never let her to anything". Mind you I watch our daughter so she can go to the gym after I get out of work. Well we had arguments and I became somewhat resentful because she kept pushing me away. I told her my feelings and in her mind she needed space. Well she went home two weeks before the trip (gone a total of a month). She did this when I was at work. It hurt a lot and I missed my daughter so much. I was confused because I did not understand how she could do this after all my sacrifices for us and who it turned so quickly. Well before the trip I did some research and come to find out she was talking to two men behind my back. I called her out and she just dismissed it and even lied about one guy. Well she goes on the trip and does not initiate contact with me (very difficult time for me, could not eat or sleep). She knew I was wondering who she was talking to and left me with the pain to deal with, in her words "our problems will still be here when I return." Regardless some other arguments ensued and she did come home. She did not show me she changed like she said she did. We went to one session of MC and that same day she asked if we are going to work this out (of course after the ILYBNILWY speech). I told her no and went for a motorcycle ride. The next week before she left officially were good for us. She wanted me and she was sad to leave and I was also sad. Either way I knew it was the right thing. Many tears were shed, but it had to happen. Well she went home and started going out immediately. Well after the weekend of no contact ended she pursues me one night thru text begging to come back. I was not convinced this was real so I said no all night. Well next day she signs a lease and takes a part time job. I was jealous and my knee jerk reaction was to ask her to come back, so i did. She already made her mind so she stayed. Well now since that has happened her parents furnished her whole apartment and like always she has it made. We did make an agreement in writing before she left. Either way she still asked for more money from me. I did give her an extra hundred but not good enough. So here comes the resentment from her and painting a picture of me as a bad guy. I have not budged on the agreement. Either way right now she has been acting cold and seems to like her life. I had a weak moment a couple days ago and called her. Other then that I remain no contact except for our daughter. I am getting our daughter for two weeks come tomorrow (we are going on vacation to Puerto Rico), and I have daycare set up for one week every month before I deploy early next year (that is our agreement). Well guys.....I need some help on how to get over this. I completely blocked her FB so I can't even see pictures. It is just extremely difficult to keep her off my mind. And also WTH is wrong with her, how can she do this. She did offer me full time with our daughter, but when I said I cant pay her because I will have the child, she quickly took it back. Well let me know what you guys think and please help me out.

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