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Introduction to the new GF

We've been separated since March this year, and live on different continents. Our son is about to travel overseas to visit family for the summer, but decided to skip his dad's place in order to avoid his dad's new GF, who happens to be the reason for our upcoming divorce. She is a Thai "masseuse", who jumps from marriage to marriage seamlessly in search of a sugar daddy, and to remain in the country, still married now, but living with my STBXH way before I even found out.

Our son will visit other relatives, and the plan was for his dad to visit him at his aunt's house, which happens to be not too far away. All fine and good, but his father is very insistent on our son meeting his new GF, so she will be there as well. Our son wanted to spend some dad time, but it will now be dad-and-GF time. He made his displeasure known, but got overruled and knowing the family, he will be brainwashed into accepting this upcoming situation as normal, and his feelings of apprehension as invalid. He is 19, but a very young 19, and has not learned yet to assert himself fully, especially not against some of the domineering members of his paternal family. He is also autistic, and has a harder time verbalizing his emotions and concerns.

The bond between him and me is firm and secure. I don't feel threatened by him meeting her, or even liking her. I'm really neutral on this. What bothers me is the ongoing control and manipulation which permeated our family existence in the past, and does not stop now, in light of the fact that this young person has been missing out on the father experience for several years now, is terribly attached to him still, while this mother****er of a father will not grant his one and only son the wish to spend alone-time with his kid even just once a year for a week or two. I really, really hope that this visit will leave the kid happy, and that next year, he will find an internship to spend his summer with.

Any thoughts?:scratchhead:




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