Mental/Personality disorders and cheating.

Rambling incoming... Well hello everyone it's me again. Since I've been feeling great over the past week. I've decided to make this thread. It's regarding being in a relationship with someone that as mental/personality disorders. This includes Severe Depression Borderline Schizophrenic Histronic Bipolar ( What my soon to be ex wife has ) Now some quick background.. Wife cheated with several guys. She's admitted to 8 guys and stands by that. 3 one night stands and 5 flings. One of these flings got her pregnant. My son or so I thought turned out to not be mine via DNA test. The only reason I found out about her behavior was due to an OM who came to me and told me. Want the full story feel free to check out the first thread I started. Anyways, i just wanted to say know what you are getting into!! Seriously, if your partner has a serious mental illness or personality disorder; it is extremely unlikely that you will fix it. The behavior and habits they exhibit that stems from their mental illness will continue to stay that way 9 times out of 10.. if they don't seem intent on fixing it. I knew what I was getting into. I tried to react accordingly. When she had her manic episodes I knew not to get too upset. I always comforted her. Our sex life was great...when we had it. Our chemistry and banter was funny and engaging. But that did not stop the lies and utter humiliation she put me through. Since DDay she's been very manic; Swearing at me, making threats, falling in and out of depression. Does she feel genuinely sorry? I don't know. I do know that she's definitely suffering. My father always says " there's enough dishonesty in the world, you owe it to the ones that matter to not lie to them. " I make it an obligation to be honest.. even if it hurts my loved ones; and I expect the same in return. If your partner has issues at all. Do not rugsweep. That goes for you and your partner. Talk about it. Just sit down, relax, and have a deep conversation with each other. You love each other right? There's no reason you shouldn't be completely honest with each other. It's so easy to meet and see new people. Because of this, People these days don't value their friends as much as they used to. So you when you finally get something good.. please.. please.. don't squander it... My wife did and she knows it. To close this out I will say It's been scientifically proven that love can literally blind you. Do not let " love "blind you. Sure we all have flaws and whatnot. However, most of us have things we cannot and/or will not tolerate. Figure those things out and see if your partner has those traits/habits. If they do.. leave. Otherwise be smart and communicate with each other and do your best to prevent these issues or find a way to compensate..again to prevent .. Also, address these issues and be absolutely loyal and 100% honest with your loved ones. Share everything with each other if you have to. Too many people these days are miserable and they wonder why. Value the ones that matter to you. The ones that genuinely care about you. There's history, common sense, and our all powerful brains... use it...:)

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