Greetings Friends (and others)

Back from the penalty box. I will admit some surprise at being sent there, but it's not my board, so I submit to those in authority. I still maintain that anyone who stalks someone they've fired on this board "should" hear about it - in the most direct manner possible. And, the spouse who is being stalked should not be signing off and/or trying to please the stalker in any way shape, or form. That's not what this is about. I've read quite a few threads in the past week and I must say I'm a bit concerned. Still far too much focus on the "whys" and the "wherefores"... the "how could theys" This is called wallowing in victimhood. The fact is... THEY DID And, the challenge here is what are WE going to DO? Trying to decipher why someone fired you can actually be helpful. Reflecting on the dynamic of the relationship and how you might have changed it while in process? Also good. Yet, when you get fired, mark this well. Your former partner IS detached. That's what firing is about. I have fired a partner in the past. I remember how hard and cold my heart was at that point. Of course, she vindicated my actions by re-litigating the divorce after a mid-six figure lump sum settlement, but I digress. I'm going to talk quite a bit about the reactivity and pointlessness of wallowing in the next few days. What we must do is strive for proactivity and building a life. Remember - talk (wallow) less - DO more.

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