Guys, how can I help my boyfriend with performance anxiety?

Right so, we had this issue right at the start of out relationship and I was his first, whether that makes a difference. It took at least three months to get over it, and I'm not really sure what helped other than him realising I wasn't going to up and leave him over some sexual issues. Things have been great since then, and we've been together over 1.5 years now. But a few weeks ago, the problem started up all over again! He's feeling quite down just now, which I'm sure has something to do with it. But also, I was doubting our sexual compatibility because we've started having sex in a way that makes me feel really uncomfortable. When we first got together he was inexperienced and would always avoid eye contact during sex - I'm not asking for a staring contest, but some intense eye contact turns me on. Eventually I spoke to him about it, he started looking at me more/kissing me, and it seemed to become more natural for him. Now the last few times: he becomes completely fixated on staring at himself sliding in and out of me (fine occasionally, but it means he's not looking at me at all now!) - when I have said 'look at me' he seems to get awkward about it, and immediately tries to bury his head in my shoulder (again, he used to do this in the really early days). I feel like I can't connect with him and I'm panicking about his feelings f or me. I've soothingly told him to relax, smiling at him etc, but his face just becomes more contorted until he goes soft altogether. I can't believe how much things have regressed, and don't know what to do? The lack of a decent sex life is impacting the relationship.

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