Wife has daddy issues

I struggle with divorce because my wife used me as a punching bag for her daddy issues. She still will not deal with them. She would rather blame me and break up our family than deal with them. She has gone to several counselors and they all eventually get to the subject of her dad. Not much I can do, I know. I just hate it. One counselor told her "the husband you want and need does not exist". So many unrealistic expectations put on me. Yet I still tried. And I don't know why I have such a hard time letting go. Maybe its my own insecurities that make me hold on to something that was never there. Im trying to detach. When you have a child its a little harder. When I see her it triggers something that makes me sad or anxious to want to make it work. Maybe because she is real pretty. Sometimes I wish she would gain 100lbs so I would not be physically attracted to her. Woukd make it easier. /vent

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