Avoidant new husband moved out

My husband and I have been married for 4 months (after 3 years of dating - I'm 35 yrs old) and he moved out 2 months ago. Throughout our entire relationship, we've had communication problems (he feels very uncomfortable talking about his needs, wants to make me happy by always agreeing w me, then resents me) and I think fights are around intimacy - he doesn't want to spend time together, when we are, he's on his laptop, etc. He's extremely conflict avoidant - to the point where I can't bring up anything without him getting hypersensitive and yelling/blaming me. He caused a fight (literally from nothing) on our engagement day, a month before and a day before the wedding. Two months later, I miscarried, and he moved out. He just says he's angry and holds onto the anger, though we've been to 3 couples therapists and he had some individual sessions but quit (I've been in therapy for years). One therapist wanted him on an anti-depressant for his anger, and another told him he was being hypersensitive and the anger is making things worse. One reason why he's angry is bc I spoke about how he should leave me multiple times. This was protest behavior on my part, and not skillful - he would say horrible things and lose his temper so much that I would blurt out "well then you should leave me if Im so horrible." and that would trigger him. Everyone (all friends and family, and my 4 couples therapists) have told me to leave. Mainly bc he's not willing to work. He says he is, but refuses to seek help or see that he has any responsibility - everything is my fault. I'm finally okay with leaving him, but want to make this work if possible. It's just so hard with someone so avoidant of conflict/intimacy, not able to communicate his needs, and refusing to talk/think about his contribution to our problems. Any thoughts/advice much appreciated.

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