Well, where to begin...
My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 7. We started dating when I was 20 and she was 16. For the first half of our relationship, it was magical. Then, for whatever reason, my depression as a teenager started creeping bacn into my life, worse than ever before.
This of course let to me being depressed, stressed, angry all the time. We would fight, and over the years the would just continue to escalate. I was a horrible husband now that I look back. I was verbally abusive, talked bad about her to our friends to boost my own self esteem. She knew how much I still loved her and pushed for me to go to therapy.
I finally started going in January, and it has really helped. I'm not as angry or depressed anymore with talking to my therapist and medication that I am on.
Unfortunately, we seperated about 3 months ago for 3 weeks. We had a big blow up fight when I was angry and drunk (mixing alcohol, antidepressants, and anti-anxiety medication no good). So she left to stay at a friends house for a couple of weeks to sort things out and needed space.
I tried giving her space, but like most weak men in that state, still tried to initiate conversation. She felt bad and came back, not wanting to see me upset since she never meant to hurt me.
We started going to marriage counseling since she got back and thought we were making great progress. Then I found out she slept with a mutual friend twice while she was gone. I wasn't mad at her for it, in fact, I expected it.
As hard as it was, I have forgiven her for cheating, since we were seperated and agreed not to see anyone else.
Now on Wednesday she tells me that she's not in love with me anymore, and neither finds me emotionally or physically attractive anymore.
She said it's been progressing for a while but was too afraid to admit it to me.
She came back to see if there was anything still there, which I believe there is from the way we acted when she first came back. I plan on going to stay with a friend this week to let her sort it out, I'm just confused.
After all the years of abuse, she's put a wall up around her heart. She admits that she sees me changing for the better and still loves and cares about me. I'm at a point where I really don't know what to do, all I know is that I've never wanted anything more than my wife and I to have the relationship we never had.
My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 7. We started dating when I was 20 and she was 16. For the first half of our relationship, it was magical. Then, for whatever reason, my depression as a teenager started creeping bacn into my life, worse than ever before.
This of course let to me being depressed, stressed, angry all the time. We would fight, and over the years the would just continue to escalate. I was a horrible husband now that I look back. I was verbally abusive, talked bad about her to our friends to boost my own self esteem. She knew how much I still loved her and pushed for me to go to therapy.
I finally started going in January, and it has really helped. I'm not as angry or depressed anymore with talking to my therapist and medication that I am on.
Unfortunately, we seperated about 3 months ago for 3 weeks. We had a big blow up fight when I was angry and drunk (mixing alcohol, antidepressants, and anti-anxiety medication no good). So she left to stay at a friends house for a couple of weeks to sort things out and needed space.
I tried giving her space, but like most weak men in that state, still tried to initiate conversation. She felt bad and came back, not wanting to see me upset since she never meant to hurt me.
We started going to marriage counseling since she got back and thought we were making great progress. Then I found out she slept with a mutual friend twice while she was gone. I wasn't mad at her for it, in fact, I expected it.
As hard as it was, I have forgiven her for cheating, since we were seperated and agreed not to see anyone else.
Now on Wednesday she tells me that she's not in love with me anymore, and neither finds me emotionally or physically attractive anymore.
She said it's been progressing for a while but was too afraid to admit it to me.
She came back to see if there was anything still there, which I believe there is from the way we acted when she first came back. I plan on going to stay with a friend this week to let her sort it out, I'm just confused.
After all the years of abuse, she's put a wall up around her heart. She admits that she sees me changing for the better and still loves and cares about me. I'm at a point where I really don't know what to do, all I know is that I've never wanted anything more than my wife and I to have the relationship we never had.
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