Overly alpha and overly beta is not attractive. I believe we have consensus on that matter.
Even more so, it is clear each women has her own preference for what the "percentage mix" of alpha/beta her ideal man has.
Some women, much to the surprise of the overly alpha fans, prefer a more beta man. The evidence even on TAM is consistent as several women chime in they prefer a majority beta preference while arguments over definitions of alpha and beta break out.
Some women want a full on neanderthal overly alpha jack a$$. We can argue about definitions which is never clear but always seems to prefer alpha over beta from most attempting a definition.
Let us not tar all men and women with the same one size fits all alpha / beta mutually exclusive nonsense. A given women's preference is a mix of each alpha and beta while each preferred mix for each women is a mix different that other women.
If you think all women have the same mix of alpha/beta preference, you are not paying attention.
My crew of red blooded male carpenters represents every imaginable combination. Each has their admired and appreciated strengths adding to our team. We discussed all matter of issues in relationships and life daily.
We discussed how each of us would comfort a child at the scene of an accident that just lost a parent in a car crash.
Each had a somewhat unique but clearly effective approach with every mix of alpha/beta imagineable.
Each has a women in their life that loves them the way they are alpha / beta and all.
The all or nothing perspective is silly.
No one single mix has a corner on the market or the keys to an individual women's heart.
It also warrants discussing preferred for what? Marriage, a red hot one night stand, defense of a home invasion, counseling a teenage daughter, helping with chores during a medical recovery, slaying a dragon, suggesting cost effective but thoughtful ways to decorate for a school dance, comforting a child that just lost a parent, comforting someone just diagnosed with cancer, giving enough of s $hit to know your wife's favorite things, etc
There are plenty of examples of getting more sex by adding beta and a very similar amount of examples of adding alpha.
Those that recommend one approach only are relying on anecdotal evidence of their personal experience. It doesn't hold up under the scrutiny of polar opposite experiences.
It's all about the mix of alpha and beta, the individual women's preference, where your alpha/beta mix started.
Alpha and beta are elf improvement and self-awareness ingredients to be added and subtracted to get the recipe for attraction right in line with your spouses preferences.
Some will argue that alpha can not be added because it is not authentic. That is the crowd that does not recognize personal growth in people benefitting from self-reflection, tips from others, applying new wisdom and trial and error. Those that believe alpha or beta can not be adjusted are mistaken due to their missing the remarkable ability for someone to grow for themselves and their own happiness if they desire and have the determination, tools, personal strength and the information needed to pull it off.
If they don't get that, it is them missing these ingredients. It is outside their personal experience so it's altogether impossible for them to grasp it as a very viable option to save a marriage of a determined man that is honest with himself and his loves his wife.
Even more so, it is clear each women has her own preference for what the "percentage mix" of alpha/beta her ideal man has.
Some women, much to the surprise of the overly alpha fans, prefer a more beta man. The evidence even on TAM is consistent as several women chime in they prefer a majority beta preference while arguments over definitions of alpha and beta break out.
Some women want a full on neanderthal overly alpha jack a$$. We can argue about definitions which is never clear but always seems to prefer alpha over beta from most attempting a definition.
Let us not tar all men and women with the same one size fits all alpha / beta mutually exclusive nonsense. A given women's preference is a mix of each alpha and beta while each preferred mix for each women is a mix different that other women.
If you think all women have the same mix of alpha/beta preference, you are not paying attention.
My crew of red blooded male carpenters represents every imaginable combination. Each has their admired and appreciated strengths adding to our team. We discussed all matter of issues in relationships and life daily.
We discussed how each of us would comfort a child at the scene of an accident that just lost a parent in a car crash.
Each had a somewhat unique but clearly effective approach with every mix of alpha/beta imagineable.
Each has a women in their life that loves them the way they are alpha / beta and all.
The all or nothing perspective is silly.
No one single mix has a corner on the market or the keys to an individual women's heart.
It also warrants discussing preferred for what? Marriage, a red hot one night stand, defense of a home invasion, counseling a teenage daughter, helping with chores during a medical recovery, slaying a dragon, suggesting cost effective but thoughtful ways to decorate for a school dance, comforting a child that just lost a parent, comforting someone just diagnosed with cancer, giving enough of s $hit to know your wife's favorite things, etc
There are plenty of examples of getting more sex by adding beta and a very similar amount of examples of adding alpha.
Those that recommend one approach only are relying on anecdotal evidence of their personal experience. It doesn't hold up under the scrutiny of polar opposite experiences.
It's all about the mix of alpha and beta, the individual women's preference, where your alpha/beta mix started.
Alpha and beta are elf improvement and self-awareness ingredients to be added and subtracted to get the recipe for attraction right in line with your spouses preferences.
Some will argue that alpha can not be added because it is not authentic. That is the crowd that does not recognize personal growth in people benefitting from self-reflection, tips from others, applying new wisdom and trial and error. Those that believe alpha or beta can not be adjusted are mistaken due to their missing the remarkable ability for someone to grow for themselves and their own happiness if they desire and have the determination, tools, personal strength and the information needed to pull it off.
If they don't get that, it is them missing these ingredients. It is outside their personal experience so it's altogether impossible for them to grasp it as a very viable option to save a marriage of a determined man that is honest with himself and his loves his wife.
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